"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The type of girl you want?

The Duke

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This post isnt for the masses to debate what the best girl looks like or how she acts. What works for you might not work for me. It's pointless to debate, so please refrain.

This post is to ask the simple question....are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?

For me, yes I have a solid girl. She has a great mind, good looks, and is young. We get along very well. She definitely looks up to me.

I wasnt always capable of getting a girl with a solid mind and good looks, but these days my SMV is a lot higher so it makes it easier to get the total package.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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What you're essentially describing is finding a unicorn
Or levelling up so that a unicorn finds you

Basically this:


(adapt for this decade and don't pay too much attention to exact numbers and figures)

There is abundance, in which poosy is plentiful enough that you don't really give a sht whether or how long it takes for a plate to break
Abundance is good.

This is not about abundance
This is about poesy that you DO give a sht about

not because she's such an amazing lay (but doesn’t hurt, you will probably have your best non-crazy sex with her. Yes that's quite the disclaimer)
But because she spurs you on in bettering yourself
Supporting your "mission"
Per antidump, her nature will not be apparent until after months of vetting

the one in a million (or even 1/1000) girl.
 
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How did you ride your SMV Duke to get the younger lady? And what’s the age gap.

Serious question.
Edit; how old are you btw . Profile doesn’t say.
 

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After sleeping with more than 200 and been on perhaps hunderds of dates Ive accepted that basically every woman has some flaws.

I've learned that a loyal woman will also be jealous and a tad insecure. But it still the best way to go...

I need a pretty face, azz ( t1ts dknt matter that much to me) and a feminine character. No need for ambitious career women. I want a woman - woman..
 

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I have my own list of what an ideal girl should be like, but I certainly can’t say that every single box gets checked.
We all have to settle for what we can find in a particular place and at a particular point in our lives.
The best available.
But it will never be "the ideal."
It’s just the best you’ve managed to find.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What you're essentially describing is finding a unicorn
Or levelling up so that a unicorn finds you

Basically this:


(adapt for this decade and don't pay too much attention to exact numbers and figures)

There is abundance, in which poosy is plentiful enough that you don't really give a sht whether or how long it takes for a plate to break
Abundance is good.

This is not about abundance
This is about poesy that you DO give a sht about

not because she's such an amazing lay (but doesn’t hurt, you will probably have your best non-crazy sex with her. Yes that's quite the disclaimer)
But because she spurs you on in bettering yourself
Supporting your "mission"
Per antidump, her nature will not be apparent until after months of vetting

the one in a million (or even 1/1000) girl.
I had to like this because I love that you quoted Anti-Dump. One of the best posters of all time.
 

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To stay more focused on the topic:

Are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?


How did you ride your SMV Duke to get the younger lady? And what’s the age gap.

Serious question.
Edit; how old are you btw . Profile doesn’t say.
Close to 50, we have about 20 years between us. My looks were the initial attractor. My ability to dance got things going. How I made her feel in my presence sealed the deal(her words, not mine). I didn't care what we ended up being.
 

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To stay more focused on the topic:

Are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?



Close to 50, we have about 20 years between us. My looks were the initial attractor. My ability to dance got things going. How I made her feel in my presence sealed the deal(her words, not mine). I didn't care what we ended up being.
My 1000% perfect world- Gamisch- king of the universe- Genghis Khan -preference is with Arabic looking women, big booty curly hair ,petite...

Now im seeing a mixed Indian/ white woman with beautiful eyes and some azz. Beautiful woman but kinda crazy. Really sweet though..but crazy and emotional as feck LOL. She simply refuses to let me go!!

I like Persian type women BUT they're extremely materialistic. Being an afro Latin man thats an uphill battle ...

Generally speaking I tend to be attracted to literally all kinds of women. Blonde ,redhead brunette, Latina, Arabic, black , Asian...

Women are simply the most beautiful thing God created..and as @Divorced w 3 said, they ALWAYS come with some baggage . Always..

One colleague said me his dad told him ; " all women are crazy, so just pick one and ride it out " . Old school bluepill mindset, but I do like that qoute..

Personality is a dangerous one...I've learned that bubbly women always have a dark side to them. They simply know how to sell themselves and leverage their initial attractiveness perfectly. As DW3 said omcd you REALLY get to know them its downhill from there.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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To stay more focused on the topic:

Are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?



Close to 50, we have about 20 years between us. My looks were the initial attractor. My ability to dance got things going. How I made her feel in my presence sealed the deal(her words, not mine). I didn't care what we ended up being.
thanks.

In line with the topic.
-No I am not .

Why not?
-my current face and height I would say.
But also my status and money :)

And I capable /What’s holding me back?
- my standards are possibly too high
-Father Time mainly.

But I could do with some gym also tbh…looking into that atm.
 
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@The Duke

interesting that you say ‘My looks were the initial attractor’.

very interesting indeed! :) :D
you haven’t mentioned your status or money either.
Do you have those also … serious question
 

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I wasnt always capable of getting a girl with a solid mind and good looks, but these days my SMV is a lot higher so it makes it easier to get the total package.
Are you looking to trade up?
 

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I learned that my frame is as effective as the French WW2 defense against certain types of women so no I am not. I did have to make some sacrifices, but my frame is and continues to be strong. Men need to realize that some women are for pleasure and others are for who you keep around. Women do the same crap too on us.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This post isnt for the masses to debate what the best girl looks like or how she acts. What works for you might not work for me. It's pointless to debate, so please refrain.

This post is to ask the simple question....are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?

For me, yes I have a solid girl. She has a great mind, good looks, and is young. We get along very well. She definitely looks up to me.

I wasnt always capable of getting a girl with a solid mind and good looks, but these days my SMV is a lot higher so it makes it easier to get the total package.
My standards are fairly modest.

She doesn't have to be knockout gorgeous, but she has to be attractive, care about her looks, and be as committed to fitness and healthy eating that I am. She cannot have any serious chronic illnesses. Again, I am not asking for anything that I already do not also bring to the table.

I don't care is she drinks or smokes pot or takes edibles, as long as she doesn't abuse these. Any other drug use is a clear no-go.

I will not date anyone that is younger than 40, I don't care if she has kids, but I prefer her children are close to the same age as mine (early 20s). I am not interested in helping raise small children anymore (been there; done that). I see men my age with younger women and to me that is just creepy. I am not judging anyone that does this, but these kinds of 'relationships' are just not for me. I'm pushing 60 and by observation with friends of mine that chase much younger women, these situations tend to come with too much drama. But hey, some men like drama, I'm not one of them.

She has to be reasonably financially independent, not need my support or resources. Low debt levels, and generally have her sh1t together.

If she has kids with another man, not a problem as long as the father of her children is a decent fellow, and not some sh1t show. If it's a man I can reasonably get along with this is fine.

The most important thing is that she has to accept me for who I am, since I am doing the same with her, I am not interested in getting into some emotional manipulation where a woman is trying to shape me into something she wants. If I'm lucky, I have about 25 years left on Earth. I do not want to spend what little time I have dysfunctional relationships.
 
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