"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The type of girl you want?

The Duke

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This post isnt for the masses to debate what the best girl looks like or how she acts. What works for you might not work for me. It's pointless to debate, so please refrain.

This post is to ask the simple question....are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?

For me, yes I have a solid girl. She has a great mind, good looks, and is young. We get along very well. She definitely looks up to me.

I wasnt always capable of getting a girl with a solid mind and good looks, but these days my SMV is a lot higher so it makes it easier to get the total package.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What you're essentially describing is finding a unicorn
Or levelling up so that a unicorn finds you

Basically this:


(adapt for this decade and don't pay too much attention to exact numbers and figures)

There is abundance, in which poosy is plentiful enough that you don't really give a sht whether or how long it takes for a plate to break
Abundance is good.

This is not about abundance
This is about poesy that you DO give a sht about

not because she's such an amazing lay (but doesn’t hurt, you will probably have your best non-crazy sex with her. Yes that's quite the disclaimer)
But because she spurs you on in bettering yourself
Supporting your "mission"
Per antidump, her nature will not be apparent until after months of vetting

the one in a million (or even 1/1000) girl.
 
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Cheeky_James

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How did you ride your SMV Duke to get the younger lady? And what’s the age gap.

Serious question.
Edit; how old are you btw . Profile doesn’t say.
 

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After sleeping with more than 200 and been on perhaps hunderds of dates Ive accepted that basically every woman has some flaws.

I've learned that a loyal woman will also be jealous and a tad insecure. But it still the best way to go...

I need a pretty face, azz ( t1ts dknt matter that much to me) and a feminine character. No need for ambitious career women. I want a woman - woman..
 

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I have my own list of what an ideal girl should be like, but I certainly can’t say that every single box gets checked.
We all have to settle for what we can find in a particular place and at a particular point in our lives.
The best available.
But it will never be "the ideal."
It’s just the best you’ve managed to find.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What you're essentially describing is finding a unicorn
Or levelling up so that a unicorn finds you

Basically this:


(adapt for this decade and don't pay too much attention to exact numbers and figures)

There is abundance, in which poosy is plentiful enough that you don't really give a sht whether or how long it takes for a plate to break
Abundance is good.

This is not about abundance
This is about poesy that you DO give a sht about

not because she's such an amazing lay (but doesn’t hurt, you will probably have your best non-crazy sex with her. Yes that's quite the disclaimer)
But because she spurs you on in bettering yourself
Supporting your "mission"
Per antidump, her nature will not be apparent until after months of vetting

the one in a million (or even 1/1000) girl.
I had to like this because I love that you quoted Anti-Dump. One of the best posters of all time.
 

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To stay more focused on the topic:

Are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?


How did you ride your SMV Duke to get the younger lady? And what’s the age gap.

Serious question.
Edit; how old are you btw . Profile doesn’t say.
Close to 50, we have about 20 years between us. My looks were the initial attractor. My ability to dance got things going. How I made her feel in my presence sealed the deal(her words, not mine). I didn't care what we ended up being.
 

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To stay more focused on the topic:

Are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?



Close to 50, we have about 20 years between us. My looks were the initial attractor. My ability to dance got things going. How I made her feel in my presence sealed the deal(her words, not mine). I didn't care what we ended up being.
My 1000% perfect world- Gamisch- king of the universe- Genghis Khan -preference is with Arabic looking women, big booty curly hair ,petite...

Now im seeing a mixed Indian/ white woman with beautiful eyes and some azz. Beautiful woman but kinda crazy. Really sweet though..but crazy and emotional as feck LOL. She simply refuses to let me go!!

I like Persian type women BUT they're extremely materialistic. Being an afro Latin man thats an uphill battle ...

Generally speaking I tend to be attracted to literally all kinds of women. Blonde ,redhead brunette, Latina, Arabic, black , Asian...

Women are simply the most beautiful thing God created..and as @Divorced w 3 said, they ALWAYS come with some baggage . Always..

One colleague said me his dad told him ; " all women are crazy, so just pick one and ride it out " . Old school bluepill mindset, but I do like that qoute..

Personality is a dangerous one...I've learned that bubbly women always have a dark side to them. They simply know how to sell themselves and leverage their initial attractiveness perfectly. As DW3 said omcd you REALLY get to know them its downhill from there.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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@The Duke "....are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise?"

Yep. She's not a "unicorn", and I'm not "a Red Pill God"... We're both flesh and blood human beings, who are-at this particular moment in time-compatible with one another
 
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