"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The suit game

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Those who know me from years ago know that I frequently preached about invisibility. Most men are invisible to quality women. They are objects to walk around like a garbage can or parking meter. They are filtered out immediately because they don’t project self-respect. I know because I used to be an object to walk around. A neat presentation makes one visible which is a huge advantage.
Here I find myself preaching on SS like days of old. It’s true what the song says. You can check out, but…
Not speaking in extremes, I'd say a man has to be at least 6'0 before clothes make any real difference.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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zekko

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Not speaking in extremes, I'd say a man has to be at least 6'0 before clothes make any real difference.
I've said this before, but one thing about height is that your clothes look better if you're taller.
 

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I have a friend of mine who met his wife this way. He had a nice job, which required him to wear a suit every day, and he went to the mall to eat lunch at the food court in the mall. A girl dropped her number off at his table without saying a word.

The problem in the OP is why would he wear a suit just to go to the mall? My buddy had a legit reason. I guess some guys just walk around in suits every day, but it would be a little odd where I live, unless like I said it's for work.
I mean unless he was from the 1940s or 1950s and then that's what they wore ever day
 

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A long time ago I stopped focusing on suits and instead focused on just improving my wardrobe. This screams “self-respect” to the world. It’s critically important in order to be influential.
These days most men dress pretty sloppily in casual situations. There’s nothing wrong with that per se, but it makes it easy for us to stand out as men who have their stuff together.
I say that in any social situation, just dress a little nicer than most in that situation. It’s more about neatness and cleanliness than about suit/no suit. This should become a lifestyle.
Did I mention shoes? Only a thousands of times since I’ve been here. Men have no idea how important clean shoes are to women.
By the way, these tips will also work with garnering respect from men. A double-win. No, it’s a triple-win. When you dress neatly and convey self-respect to the world, you are conveying this to yourself first and foremost.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A long time ago I stopped focusing on suits and instead focused on just improving my wardrobe. This screams “self-respect” to the world. It’s critically important in order to be influential.
These days most men dress pretty sloppily in casual situations. There’s nothing wrong with that per se, but it makes it easy for us to stand out as men who have their stuff together.
I say that in any social situation, just dress a little nicer than most in that situation. It’s more about neatness and cleanliness than about suit/no suit. This should become a lifestyle.
Did I mention shoes? Only a thousands of times since I’ve been here. Men have no idea how important clean shoes are to women.
By the way, these tips will also work with garnering respect from men. A double-win. No, it’s a triple-win. When you dress neatly and convey self-respect to the world, you are conveying this to yourself first and foremost.
It's so bad in northern England, you can't even look to take hints from other well-dressed blokes.

Everyone is scruffy. **** beards, awful tattoos, beer bellies....the problem is the women aren't much better either :confused:
 

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Did I mention shoes? Only a thousands of times since I’ve been here. Men have no idea how important clean shoes are to women.
By the way, these tips will also work with garnering respect from men. A double-win. No, it’s a triple-win. When you dress neatly and convey self-respect to the world, you are conveying this to yourself first and foremost.
Yeah, shoes are huge for women. At this point, I've almost completely abandoned sneakers/tennis shoes/running shoes, what ever you want to call them. Supposedly this is particularly important for older men, that older men shouldn't wear sneakers out regularly, unless of course they're going to the gym, exercising, etc.
 
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