"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The simplest but best advice my mentor keeps giving me.

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alphawolfx

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Yep, same thing he told me. He refuses to do more work with me, unlesss I physically call him up (he's on the other side of the country) and ask him a good questino.

A natural friend that helps me out from time to time gives me very similar advice to him, too.

Good to hear though, who was your mentor?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I agree that your mentors advice is good.

The number one most repulsive attribute that we must rid ourselves of is desire to seek approval from others. When you decide to do what you want to do you rid yourselves of this.
 
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Damn this is a good idea, but it seems like i want to do to many things sometimes.

It's hard to get REALLY good at something, you really have to put in a lot of dedication and time. It's especially hard when you want to be REALLY good at MANY different things. It's overwhelming sometimes, and I will just end up reading posts on here all night....
 
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I have heard great things about Fidentia

I met Dreamweaver in field once and he was awesome.

Who was your mentor?

Have you met Shark?
 
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