Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The SECRET to not caring

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I don't even know this world in English. To be swayed by, to be conducted by... Вестись.. In simplest form that's when your actions are effected by actions of another. For example, you are in traffic and this car ahead of you is driving rather slow, you decide to take him over, and maybe even cut him off and hunk at him. Your actions were affected by that driver.

At a store there could be a blond seller explaining to a blond customer for 30 minutes how to use her iphone 4, while you are waiting in line with your business, as a result your emotional state changes, you might even change your balance from left to right foot regularly and act annoyed.

A blond might walk by at first acting interested and you go for it and stare at her, but then as she walking next to you she suddenly has to check her time or look the other way.

A cop or a security guard or maybe a life guard at the beach stands up and get everyone's attention, and your attention as well, you stand up and listen very carefully............maybe the big emergency was that the toilet is clogged or something.


In any case, to be swayed or to be conducted by is when you reacting according to actions of others. This is a big thing in espionage and mafia, and in our everyday lives. Obviously the more educated you are, the less you gonna fall and act upon others actions.

The more educated once will analyze actions of others and decide what to do before doing it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Actions affected by the actions of another: reaction.
 

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I think op means not reacting to stupid sh*t. Pretty much the feeling you get when your soo tired and sleepy you don't have the energy and attention to deal with anything that's not important.

It's all under maintaining frame and or keeping composure. Like when your talking to girl or you approach one and it doesn't go well you don't react to the results. You keep your composure or ignore it. This is a strong quality for a man to posses and I believe it's called poise.

And don't even think about squidward from spongebob, he's too miserable to care.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Picture a wolf, he's going about his life in forest, not giving a damn about squirrels and foxes, just an alpha doing his thing. Now picture a cowardly coyote, every little noise gets his interest, and as you look at it, that thing just looks cowardly, scared, just not at the same par as a wolf.
 
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