Advice from the old lady:
Oh boy this topic. Look. Because beautiful women get hit on, whether in a direct or overt way or whether in an indirect or subtle way, day in and day out constantly guess what happens as a result of this day in day out conditioning?
Beautiful women develop impeccable radar and can sense interest energy coming from a man. It is innate. Or it becomes innate. This is a biological survival mechanism in the hind brain. Historically women had to often rely on this skill for safety & survival. It’s quite powerful. She will thin slice you without you realizing it, especially if you have interest (in her) energy. She will know where you fall in relationship to your interest level (high interest, opportunistic interest, or no interest) by your vibe & your body language without you doing anything consciously.
If you have high interest or opportunistic interest and you ignore her? You come off creepy, weird, awkward or just plain rude. If she had any interest or curiosity about you? Well congratulations. You just greatly reduced your chances. You are broadcasting the wrong message without even realizing it. She reads the dissonance in the ignoring versus the interest level and it’s a bad reflection on you.
The whole premise of this theory reeks, I am sorry to say, and this is poor advice.
The ONLY exception is for those men (some contributing gallantly to this thread in fact) who are already normalized and acclimated to beautiful women who can ignore them because beautiful women then become another human being with proximity, not an (OMG she’s so HOT I want to fvck her SO bad) vibe but rather a (hey cool what’s up vibe)….Enormous difference. If I sense that a man is not trying to hump my leg mentally and he is normal energy & relaxed/easygoing? Then I can be cool too and be open toward him.
If I sense he is gamey or there is a (weirdly and poorly) hidden agenda? Oh FFS and facepalm. It broadcasts to the chick you like because you ARE being gamey and weird.
You don’t want a tactic or strategy gentlemen. You need to exude the relaxed energy.
Trust me. James Bond’s character is not EVER consciously going around purposefully ignoring beautiful women. He’s just there, cool, existing irrespective of them.
That’s the difference. It is a subtle but MONUMENTAL difference.
OP came off weird. When he gave the lady a thoughtful gift for Secret Santa? The weirdness finally went away because the dissonance between his interest intent and his weird behavior was finally resolved.
Women read this a mile away guys. Quit fooling yourselves and work on BEING the cool guy. That is why the bartender picked
@Mike32ct over his try hard buddies. He’s just there being chill. He’s not ACTIVELY ignoring the chick.
And yea. At some point you gotta make some sort of move. Or your value starts to decline.
OP needs to practice socializing more in my view. With anyone & everyone. That will in time give the best results.
And yes, there is always an attractiveness threshold to pass as well. But weird behavior, try hard behavior, or dissonance can crash you even if you pass or exceed the attraction threshold.
Cheers.