I recommended an ex gf to go to therapy. She went a male therapist. She claimed that he was checking her out. I dont know how accurate this claim is. The issue is that if an attractive crazy girl goes to a male therapist there may be sexual tension. If she goes to a female therapist, she will most likely just reinforce destructive female behaviors. Female therapist have also been indoctrinated by feminist propaganda. Therapy becomes a Catch 22.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The problem with girls going to therapy
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Aren't most male therapists wussies more or less?
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Not all of them. Good male therapists, the non male feminist kind, are the only ones a guy should be seeing.
But most therapists choose their line of work to try and cure their own crazy
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Yes. Maybe an older guy therapist who went to school earlier, not in recent years.
True. I've known quite a few and also dated a few. They really put up a facade but in private, they have major issues themselves.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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No. I have a male therapist. He’s ex law enforcement, black belt in hung gar, real level headed dude.
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I once heard someone say that anyone who gets a degree in mental health (psychology, etc.) always got that degree because they more than anything wanted to learn about themselves. Typically they have some type of trauma in their past that pushes them into these fields.
Granted, I have seen therapists do good work regardless of that.
Yes, their own past can be the catalyst for some individuals entering that field, but a part of that educational process involves recognizing and identifying their personal issues, dealing with them, putting them to rest, and living an improved future life…
“The unexamined life is not worth living.” ~ Socrates