The Preflake

[bigneil]

Flaking is bad enough, but did you ever get the Preflake move? That's when you get a text like this:

"I'll let you know the morning of our date whether I can still go on our date. I need to see if (XYZ) happens or not."

When this happens, IMO you must immediately, formally cancel the event. This is the "Dump Her Before She Dumps You" philosophy applied to a date versus a relationship. Also known as "Calling Her On Her Bad Behavior". Hopefully she'll still have enough feelings for you to care but there is a good chance she was hoping you would do just that (The Preflake Motive).

I wonder: has anyone ever survived a Preflake? That is, you didn't cancel yourself had her actually go through with the date.

I also wonder whether at this point the entire relationship itself is lost, simply by her attempting a preflake.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Learned this lesson the hard way, through mistakes but I can tell at gut level everybody realizes that there is something wrong.

Anyway I agree with your main message, sh1tty behaviour should automatically trigger the self-eject button.

Regarding your question, in this moment I believe any behaviour like this from her is a high red flag, working relationships dont show such signs nor interested undamaged girls behave that way.

Does a group of barbarians crossing the line means that the empire is felt? no but it means that the empire no longer can assure his borders and its just a matter of time till mre serious sh1t will come.

 

[Uncharted]

I've had that happen before. Most recently, I texted a chick to go out (yes I know you're supposed to call) and she took 3 days to text back. We had been out for drinks once and knew each other through mutual friends.

I had already deleted her number by then. Who the F takes three days to get back to someone to go out? A woman I will never ask out again, that's who.

 

[bigneil]

What do you guys think?

http://i1261.photobucket.com/albums/ii588/kirkpatricknn/PreFlakes_zpsba1bb614.jpg

 

[casaanova]

That's when you get a text like this:

"I'll let you know the morning of our date whether I can still go on our date. I need to see if (XYZ) happens or not."

If she tells you that straight up, that means you're her back-up dude. You made a misstep somewhere in the game and she put you on her B-list of guys (and trust me, you are not the only guy on her waitlist). She calls you when the guy she likes flakes on her. If she tells you this just delete the number and spin other plates, because back-up dudes don't get any pvssy - the 'date' will be purely platonic on her end.

 

[bigneil]

In this case it's a girl I just had sex with Saturday night (and many other times prior). When she was leaving Sunday morning she made me promise to take her to a certain event this week, and she insisted I confirm a date (because to be honest, I flaked on her several times in a row). Then when I asked for Thursday I got the preflake message. Could this be a rare Revenge Pre Flake?

 

[JohnChops]

In this case it's a girl I just had sex with Saturday night (and many other times prior). When she was leaving Sunday morning she made me promise to take her to a certain event this week, and she insisted I confirm a date (because to be honest, I flaked on her several times in a row). Then when I asked for Thursday I got the preflake message. Could this be a rare Revenge Pre Flake?

that depends neil.... is it that same stripper from months ago?

 

[Mr. Bond]

I can see myself not responding. I have too many options to care if one flakes. It's gonna happen. No big deal.

 

[bigneil]

that depends neil.... is it that same stripper from months ago?

Yes.