"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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The Preflake

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Flaking is bad enough, but did you ever get the Preflake move? That's when you get a text like this:

"I'll let you know the morning of our date whether I can still go on our date. I need to see if (XYZ) happens or not."

When this happens, IMO you must immediately, formally cancel the event. This is the "Dump Her Before She Dumps You" philosophy applied to a date versus a relationship. Also known as "Calling Her On Her Bad Behavior". Hopefully she'll still have enough feelings for you to care but there is a good chance she was hoping you would do just that (The Preflake Motive).

I wonder: has anyone ever survived a Preflake? That is, you didn't cancel yourself had her actually go through with the date.

I also wonder whether at this point the entire relationship itself is lost, simply by her attempting a preflake.
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Who Dares Win

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Learned this lesson the hard way, through mistakes but I can tell at gut level everybody realizes that there is something wrong.

Anyway I agree with your main message, sh1tty behaviour should automatically trigger the self-eject button.

Regarding your question, in this moment I believe any behaviour like this from her is a high red flag, working relationships dont show such signs nor interested undamaged girls behave that way.

Does a group of barbarians crossing the line means that the empire is felt? no but it means that the empire no longer can assure his borders and its just a matter of time till mre serious sh1t will come.
 
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I've had that happen before. Most recently, I texted a chick to go out (yes I know you're supposed to call) and she took 3 days to text back. We had been out for drinks once and knew each other through mutual friends.

I had already deleted her number by then. Who the F takes three days to get back to someone to go out? A woman I will never ask out again, that's who.
 
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bigneil said:
That's when you get a text like this:

"I'll let you know the morning of our date whether I can still go on our date. I need to see if (XYZ) happens or not."
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If she tells you that straight up, that means you're her back-up dude. You made a misstep somewhere in the game and she put you on her B-list of guys (and trust me, you are not the only guy on her waitlist). She calls you when the guy she likes flakes on her. If she tells you this just delete the number and spin other plates, because back-up dudes don't get any pvssy - the 'date' will be purely platonic on her end.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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In this case it's a girl I just had sex with Saturday night (and many other times prior). When she was leaving Sunday morning she made me promise to take her to a certain event this week, and she insisted I confirm a date (because to be honest, I flaked on her several times in a row). Then when I asked for Thursday I got the preflake message. Could this be a rare Revenge Pre Flake?
 
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bigneil said:
In this case it's a girl I just had sex with Saturday night (and many other times prior). When she was leaving Sunday morning she made me promise to take her to a certain event this week, and she insisted I confirm a date (because to be honest, I flaked on her several times in a row). Then when I asked for Thursday I got the preflake message. Could this be a rare Revenge Pre Flake?
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that depends neil.... is it that same stripper from months ago?
 
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I can see myself not responding. I have too many options to care if one flakes. It's gonna happen. No big deal.
 
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