"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Power of Social Proof

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I wanted to share a little anecdote about the power of social proof. I'm sure many of you have similar stories, but I was amazed at how well this worked and I wasn't even trying.

I have a friend at work who I jokingly refer to as my "work-wife." She's cute, blonde, young, and a lot of fun. We've got a little casual FB thing going.

I have another girl who I used to date and now we just chat online. Things cooled off and her interest in me waned, but we kept in touch. About one email between us every few months just to catch up.

This week she emailed to catch up, and I told her I was going to a beach with some friends that my "work-wife" recommended. BAM! I was hit with a flurry of emails from this cooled-off girl - "who is she, what does she look like, tell me more!"

I sent her a pic of the work-wife, this cute blonde 10 years my junior, and the cooled-off girl went nuts. The next email I got was: "She's very pretty...when are WE getting together?!?!" and lots of chat about how she's been going to the salon and working out, yadda yadda.

Just thought I'd share. It's great to see concepts in action.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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haha..social proof is great...now play this e-mail girl like a fiddle
 
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Good story. In a way it gives me contempt for women. I mean you could've been a great guy but she'd have ignored you unless you had some blonde girl with you. I know that's just the way it is, and according to Mystery, it comes from genetic pre-programming, but sometimes I think our genes are completely wacked out and make us behave stupidly.
 
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PhatE1vis said:
I wanted to share a little anecdote about the power of social proof. I'm sure many of you have similar stories, but I was amazed at how well this worked and I wasn't even trying.

I have a friend at work who I jokingly refer to as my "work-wife." She's cute, blonde, young, and a lot of fun. We've got a little casual FB thing going.

I have another girl who I used to date and now we just chat online. Things cooled off and her interest in me waned, but we kept in touch. About one email between us every few months just to catch up.

This week she emailed to catch up, and I told her I was going to a beach with some friends that my "work-wife" recommended. BAM! I was hit with a flurry of emails from this cooled-off girl - "who is she, what does she look like, tell me more!"

I sent her a pic of the work-wife, this cute blonde 10 years my junior, and the cooled-off girl went nuts. The next email I got was: "She's very pretty...when are WE getting together?!?!" and lots of chat about how she's been going to the salon and working out, yadda yadda.

Just thought I'd share. It's great to see concepts in action.
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I haven't actually seen it work first hand yet, as no one seems obviosly jealous that I'm hanging out with the few women I hang out with. Out of any of them, only three of them are what I'd consider physically attractive. They're cool people to hang with, and that's why I spend time with them.

Then a lot of the attractive women I've tried to get to know have the brain power of tapioca (and THAT'S insulting tapioca!)

I need more attractive SMART and GENUINELY FRIENDLY females in my life. Lol.
 
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I remember there was a service called wingwomen. Don't know if still exists. But basically, you'd pay these attractive sociable girls to come hang out with you at a bar or club as social proof. They would act like they are your friend, then they'd start up conversations with other attractive women in the bar and then introduce you to them.

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1196426/posts
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PhatE1vis said:
I wanted to share a little anecdote about the power of social proof. I'm sure many of you have similar stories, but I was amazed at how well this worked and I wasn't even trying.

I have a friend at work who I jokingly refer to as my "work-wife." She's cute, blonde, young, and a lot of fun. We've got a little casual FB thing going.

I have another girl who I used to date and now we just chat online. Things cooled off and her interest in me waned, but we kept in touch. About one email between us every few months just to catch up.

This week she emailed to catch up, and I told her I was going to a beach with some friends that my "work-wife" recommended. BAM! I was hit with a flurry of emails from this cooled-off girl - "who is she, what does she look like, tell me more!"

I sent her a pic of the work-wife, this cute blonde 10 years my junior, and the cooled-off girl went nuts. The next email I got was: "She's very pretty...when are WE getting together?!?!" and lots of chat about how she's been going to the salon and working out, yadda yadda.

Just thought I'd share. It's great to see concepts in action.
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Wait a minute... is this social proof or just plain old jealousy?

I though social proof is when you are say at a bar or something and the girl see's you making your rounds, chatting everybody up, seeing that you know a lot of people.
 
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Ever heard the saying "When it rains, it pours"? Well, that's the way it usually works with women.
 
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