"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The Power of Social Proof

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I wanted to share a little anecdote about the power of social proof. I'm sure many of you have similar stories, but I was amazed at how well this worked and I wasn't even trying.

I have a friend at work who I jokingly refer to as my "work-wife." She's cute, blonde, young, and a lot of fun. We've got a little casual FB thing going.

I have another girl who I used to date and now we just chat online. Things cooled off and her interest in me waned, but we kept in touch. About one email between us every few months just to catch up.

This week she emailed to catch up, and I told her I was going to a beach with some friends that my "work-wife" recommended. BAM! I was hit with a flurry of emails from this cooled-off girl - "who is she, what does she look like, tell me more!"

I sent her a pic of the work-wife, this cute blonde 10 years my junior, and the cooled-off girl went nuts. The next email I got was: "She's very pretty...when are WE getting together?!?!" and lots of chat about how she's been going to the salon and working out, yadda yadda.

Just thought I'd share. It's great to see concepts in action.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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haha..social proof is great...now play this e-mail girl like a fiddle
 
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Good story. In a way it gives me contempt for women. I mean you could've been a great guy but she'd have ignored you unless you had some blonde girl with you. I know that's just the way it is, and according to Mystery, it comes from genetic pre-programming, but sometimes I think our genes are completely wacked out and make us behave stupidly.
 
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PhatE1vis said:
I wanted to share a little anecdote about the power of social proof. I'm sure many of you have similar stories, but I was amazed at how well this worked and I wasn't even trying.

I have a friend at work who I jokingly refer to as my "work-wife." She's cute, blonde, young, and a lot of fun. We've got a little casual FB thing going.

I have another girl who I used to date and now we just chat online. Things cooled off and her interest in me waned, but we kept in touch. About one email between us every few months just to catch up.

This week she emailed to catch up, and I told her I was going to a beach with some friends that my "work-wife" recommended. BAM! I was hit with a flurry of emails from this cooled-off girl - "who is she, what does she look like, tell me more!"

I sent her a pic of the work-wife, this cute blonde 10 years my junior, and the cooled-off girl went nuts. The next email I got was: "She's very pretty...when are WE getting together?!?!" and lots of chat about how she's been going to the salon and working out, yadda yadda.

Just thought I'd share. It's great to see concepts in action.
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I haven't actually seen it work first hand yet, as no one seems obviosly jealous that I'm hanging out with the few women I hang out with. Out of any of them, only three of them are what I'd consider physically attractive. They're cool people to hang with, and that's why I spend time with them.

Then a lot of the attractive women I've tried to get to know have the brain power of tapioca (and THAT'S insulting tapioca!)

I need more attractive SMART and GENUINELY FRIENDLY females in my life. Lol.
 
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I remember there was a service called wingwomen. Don't know if still exists. But basically, you'd pay these attractive sociable girls to come hang out with you at a bar or club as social proof. They would act like they are your friend, then they'd start up conversations with other attractive women in the bar and then introduce you to them.

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1196426/posts
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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PhatE1vis said:
I wanted to share a little anecdote about the power of social proof. I'm sure many of you have similar stories, but I was amazed at how well this worked and I wasn't even trying.

I have a friend at work who I jokingly refer to as my "work-wife." She's cute, blonde, young, and a lot of fun. We've got a little casual FB thing going.

I have another girl who I used to date and now we just chat online. Things cooled off and her interest in me waned, but we kept in touch. About one email between us every few months just to catch up.

This week she emailed to catch up, and I told her I was going to a beach with some friends that my "work-wife" recommended. BAM! I was hit with a flurry of emails from this cooled-off girl - "who is she, what does she look like, tell me more!"

I sent her a pic of the work-wife, this cute blonde 10 years my junior, and the cooled-off girl went nuts. The next email I got was: "She's very pretty...when are WE getting together?!?!" and lots of chat about how she's been going to the salon and working out, yadda yadda.

Just thought I'd share. It's great to see concepts in action.
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Wait a minute... is this social proof or just plain old jealousy?

I though social proof is when you are say at a bar or something and the girl see's you making your rounds, chatting everybody up, seeing that you know a lot of people.
 
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Ever heard the saying "When it rains, it pours"? Well, that's the way it usually works with women.
 
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