"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The perfect time.

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How many people here have actually cold approached a woman? How many people here have actually completed the bootacamp? How long are your going to wait until you start working on your goals?

Chances are, you never will. I'm not trying to be rude, but this is the reality of it. History has told us that the majority of people don't achieve their goals. They are to busy waiting for that perfect time, that perfect time when they have a particular thing or maybe when they dont have a particular thing.

The perfect time is a myth, its a fantasy which you created that tells your brain that one day... you will be happy. Happiness and Motivation aren't things that you have, they are things that you do. You don't do something to make you happy, you do happy.

Do you day dream? Do you make up fantasies in which you are impressing that girl, bashing that guy, dancing like a maniac, having a cool party, or simply not giving a ****? Day dreaming is a gift and a curse.

It's a gift, because you now know what you want. If you ever want to know what you want then just close your eyes and let your mind wander, it will go to where it wants to be.

Daydreaming is the most unproductive thing you can possibly to, it is your brain making up a false reality in which you are happy. But when you come to, your brain realises something, your not happy.

You want to know how to make your day dreams become reality? Sure, i'll tell you. Stop daydreaming. If you stop creating a false reality then eventually you will be forced to make a reality in which you actually are happy.

Remember,

you don't win silver, you lose gold

Stop waiting for the perfect time, it doesn't exist. Instead of day dreaming, why not actually think of ways your dreams can become reality. Plan out every aspect of it and make sure its believable, now instead of daydreaming, think about yourself doing this but succesfully, doing things you know you can do.

Work your way up to happiness.

It will be hard, it will be intense. You have to work for it, but in the end, it doesnt really matter. You can keep day dreaming if you want, until (and one day it will come) you become content with mediocrity.

But not me, i choose to fight. I'm not going to let my environment dominate me, i choose to work my way to the top. But once again, in the end, it's irrelavent.

Will you reach your goals? Probably not. I'm not here to tell you everything will be okay. Take control of your own life, there is noone watching over us but ourselves. Noone is going to live for you.

Lock yourself up in a dream, or live, who cares? Only you. Take lifes dissapointments and stand proud. For you my friend... have chosen happiness.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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No point in living if you can't feel alive -The world is not enough.

Interresting post. I enjoyed it.
 

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inspirational.
 

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I actually DID a cold approach for the first time last year during my senior year. She was a sophmore that i thought looked fvcking awesome and had grinded with a little during the last dance.
So i asked one of her acquantinces if she thought the girl had a bf. she said she thought no, so it was worth a shot. My inspiration was the “it works like magic” quick tip. So I decided this was the perfect time. I got psyched up and went over and just asked her out. You should have seen the way she blushed. And she told everyone she would have accepted if she DIDN’T have a boyfriend! Turns out she was kinda attached to a guy my age that went to our school my freshman year and now lived in VA, but had visited during the summer. UGGGGH!! Even her friend that was with her would have said yes if I asked her! I just thought it would be fvcked up to ask her out after asking out her best friend in front of her.:rolleyes:
 

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yeh, nice post as usual sammo

i keep on thinking that everything will work out for me. everything will be fine if i just live everyday as it comes to me. reality is that it won't, or most likely won't

i'm mainly thinking about my academic studies here. slowly, every week that goes by i think "ok, that's it, i'll need to start. cmon, i'm a dj, i'm better than everyone else, i know more than them. i'll need to put loads of effort into this. i'll do an hour studying every single day...". unfortunately, i am waiting for that perfect moment as you say, the right time to start. after starting on my stuff today, it's clear that there is no perfect time to start. in fact, today was probably the worst time to start (because i have deadlines to meet now).
i'm going to have to start taking this seriously, because if i don't start putting in massive effort, the other students will overtake me (they already have) and i'll be left behind at the bottom of the class.


cheers man,
gav
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Great post, Sammo.

I, actually, have approached women that I never met....and believe it or not, it was pretty hard. I almost didn't say a word each time, but I forced myself to move my damn legs over there and start some conversation. I play golf so every now and then, I see a hot girl on a high school team or something; it allows for some easy to start conversations. "What school do you play for?", "When does your season start?", "How good is your team?", etc. I've never successfully completed the Bootcamp because for some stupid reason, I always get side-tracked: school projects, tests, college apps....you know, the Standard Senior Shìt....but once I get back after the winter break, I'll be sure to start the Bootcamp again.

Keep up the good work.
 

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Nice post Sammo, HoF material, this is explaining procrastination at it's simplest and easiest to see in yourself form. I liked the SS to start off the piece, it really reeled me in :D

wcknightjr : Your approach went well, how come you say it happened last year? Go approach summore!
 

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Originally posted by AFK Protector
dammit Sammo...I read BBB's post on merit and decided not to go for my oneitis....now I read your post and I'm having second thoughts....GODDAM!!!:mad:
If you have oneitis there is no perfect time but there is no right time either. Chances are by now you've ruined your chances, so your time would be better spent elsewhere.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by Nocturnal
If you have oneitis there is no perfect time but there is no right time either. Chances are by now you've ruined your chances, so your time would be better spent elsewhere.
the truth hurts...but I've been getting signals, and SHE actually broke up with him as I've heard from buddies. now she's kinoing me and stuff. I guess she didn't feel right doing it while she had a bf, but I'm just too damn sexy and she broke up with him. yeah...life is hard.:cool:
 
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