the paradox

[dudewut]

you dont approach, you are seen as weak/no confidence
you do approach, you are seen as desperate

what do?

 

[Strelok]

The difference between an aggressive approach and sexual harassment is the look of the guy doing it.

Same mostly work in your case, a cool guy that dont approach is misterious while an average guy is weak.
A cool guy that approach is a stud going for it, an average one is either creepy or desperate.

So change yourself and the world around you will either.

 

[dudewut]

The difference between an aggressive approach and sexual harassment is the look of the guy doing it.

this is when a video comes in handy

 

[Mike32ct]

Exactly. Do what you can to maximize your value.

But generally, only women who are attracted to you can/will appreciate you approaching them. You'll be "creepy" or needy or a pest to the ones who aren't attracted to you. That's just the way it is. You can't avoid this because you can't be atractive to every woman, and you can't always tell (before you approach) who is attracted to you.

The difference between an aggressive approach and sexual harassment is the look of the guy doing it.

Same mostly work in your case, a cool guy that dont approach is misterious while an average guy is weak.
A cool guy that approach is a stud going for it, an average one is either creepy or desperate.

So change yourself and the world around you will either.

 

[bigneil]

What do you do? Look for buying signs, then approach when you receive them. Women only get mad if you don't approach when they give you buying signs first.

 

[st_99]

Like others have said.

If they like you, you're confident and manly for stepping up.

If they dont like you, you're annoying and creepy.

Pretty dumb huh?

 

[dudewut]

Based on the replies we shouldnt do any more work. Because those that will like us, will like us and those that don't, wouldnt. So no point in reading all these things and cold approaching (believe me, if they like you they will approach).

So just sit back and relax I guess. Right?

Edit: WAIT A MINUTE! If I want to talk to her, whether or not she likes me or not, what is wrong with that? Was there a law against a man approaching a woman?

What kind of world do women live in that just because she does not like him he is a lesser creature, we guys, are we even supposed to be selective with our friends? The more the merrier is what I think. I like vanilla better than chocolate but I am not going to curse out all chocolate-kind.

I mean, we men are acting in our nature, wtf? And why do I care what she thinks?

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe that you care what she thinks because you want to get some attention from women and get physical/intellectual/emotional satisfaction from another human being.

We act against our natural tendencies all of the time, so why should it be any different with dating? I personally act differently in a club than I'd act in a church or at work, and therefore the same is true with approaching a woman on the street.

Your logic with regard to 'damned if you do, damned it you don't' is false and here's why:

Some of the time you'll be viewed as creepy, even if you're being absolutely not creepy. Some of the time you'll be viewed as friendly, and she'll be surprised if you suggest the two of you go do something somewhere. Some of the time she'll be waiting for you to ask for her number so she can set up a date to blow you and swallow. ALL OF THESE ARE TRUE WHETHER OR NOT YOU APPROACH.

Your key will be to accept each of these outcomes as eventual, acting to minimize the undesirable outcomes and maximize the desirables. Just like any skill, it takes practice.

As you approach women, you need to take stock of how often you get positive reception or negative reception and consider what you are doing each time. Reflect on each one, looking for success and mistakes.

Note: If you approach women who are physically far more attractive than you, either in terms of clothing or physical appearance, then your odds of getting rejected go up. If you can't deal with that, then approach ugly women and practice being friendly and disarming. It'll boost your self esteem and you'll develop game and enjoy the ego trip.

Hope this helps.