"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Same mostly work in your case, a cool guy that dont approach is misterious while an average guy is weak.
A cool guy that approach is a stud going for it, an average one is either creepy or desperate.
So change yourself and the world around you will either.
Mike32ct
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But generally, only women who are attracted to you can/will appreciate you approaching them. You'll be "creepy" or needy or a pest to the ones who aren't attracted to you. That's just the way it is. You can't avoid this because you can't be atractive to every woman, and you can't always tell (before you approach) who is attracted to you.
Strelok said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
dudewut
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So just sit back and relax I guess. Right?
Edit: WAIT A MINUTE! If I want to talk to her, whether or not she likes me or not, what is wrong with that? Was there a law against a man approaching a woman?
What kind of world do women live in that just because she does not like him he is a lesser creature, we guys, are we even supposed to be selective with our friends? The more the merrier is what I think. I like vanilla better than chocolate but I am not going to curse out all chocolate-kind.
I mean, we men are acting in our nature, wtf? And why do I care what she thinks?
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We act against our natural tendencies all of the time, so why should it be any different with dating? I personally act differently in a club than I'd act in a church or at work, and therefore the same is true with approaching a woman on the street.
Your logic with regard to 'damned if you do, damned it you don't' is false and here's why:
Some of the time you'll be viewed as creepy, even if you're being absolutely not creepy. Some of the time you'll be viewed as friendly, and she'll be surprised if you suggest the two of you go do something somewhere. Some of the time she'll be waiting for you to ask for her number so she can set up a date to blow you and swallow. ALL OF THESE ARE TRUE WHETHER OR NOT YOU APPROACH.
Your key will be to accept each of these outcomes as eventual, acting to minimize the undesirable outcomes and maximize the desirables. Just like any skill, it takes practice.
As you approach women, you need to take stock of how often you get positive reception or negative reception and consider what you are doing each time. Reflect on each one, looking for success and mistakes.
Note: If you approach women who are physically far more attractive than you, either in terms of clothing or physical appearance, then your odds of getting rejected go up. If you can't deal with that, then approach ugly women and practice being friendly and disarming. It'll boost your self esteem and you'll develop game and enjoy the ego trip.
Hope this helps.