"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
the paradox
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Same mostly work in your case, a cool guy that dont approach is misterious while an average guy is weak.
A cool guy that approach is a stud going for it, an average one is either creepy or desperate.
So change yourself and the world around you will either.
Mike32ct
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But generally, only women who are attracted to you can/will appreciate you approaching them. You'll be "creepy" or needy or a pest to the ones who aren't attracted to you. That's just the way it is. You can't avoid this because you can't be atractive to every woman, and you can't always tell (before you approach) who is attracted to you.
Strelok said:
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
dudewut
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So just sit back and relax I guess. Right?
Edit: WAIT A MINUTE! If I want to talk to her, whether or not she likes me or not, what is wrong with that? Was there a law against a man approaching a woman?
What kind of world do women live in that just because she does not like him he is a lesser creature, we guys, are we even supposed to be selective with our friends? The more the merrier is what I think. I like vanilla better than chocolate but I am not going to curse out all chocolate-kind.
I mean, we men are acting in our nature, wtf? And why do I care what she thinks?
Deadly_Ripped
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We act against our natural tendencies all of the time, so why should it be any different with dating? I personally act differently in a club than I'd act in a church or at work, and therefore the same is true with approaching a woman on the street.
Your logic with regard to 'damned if you do, damned it you don't' is false and here's why:
Some of the time you'll be viewed as creepy, even if you're being absolutely not creepy. Some of the time you'll be viewed as friendly, and she'll be surprised if you suggest the two of you go do something somewhere. Some of the time she'll be waiting for you to ask for her number so she can set up a date to blow you and swallow. ALL OF THESE ARE TRUE WHETHER OR NOT YOU APPROACH.
Your key will be to accept each of these outcomes as eventual, acting to minimize the undesirable outcomes and maximize the desirables. Just like any skill, it takes practice.
As you approach women, you need to take stock of how often you get positive reception or negative reception and consider what you are doing each time. Reflect on each one, looking for success and mistakes.
Note: If you approach women who are physically far more attractive than you, either in terms of clothing or physical appearance, then your odds of getting rejected go up. If you can't deal with that, then approach ugly women and practice being friendly and disarming. It'll boost your self esteem and you'll develop game and enjoy the ego trip.
Hope this helps.