"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The only way to get girls is...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
In response to your topic, well, I'm pretty sure I know that you know that it's not true. If something has happened to make you discouraged and take a binary outlook on things (can't get a girl without a girl vs. getting girls is easy when I have a girl, no middle ground), chin up, it'll pass. Be rational.
Preselection certainly helps, but you don't by any means NEED to be knee deep in women to have success. You demonstrate through your actions that you are a man capable of attracting women. How to be that man is a whole 'nother story - what this forum revolves around in fact (Read the DJ Bible).
Tictac
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Since no one starts out with a girl, your idea requires that you will never get one.
You may want to rethink your statement.
amazingswayze
Master Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
aforabi
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So, build up your life ... build hobbies and interests you are passionate about or enjoy doing ... and try inviting chicks into those place to "test" if she likes your lifestyle or not? Of course, you need to make your lifestyle a little bit interesting (this forum will help), or have something interesting going for you. If she likes your style, she is an interested woman in my book. If she does not, i drop them like a bad habit
Peace!
Focus on YOU, not them ... if they like your style, they will stick otherwise go NEXT them ... there are plenty!