29 straight times is overkill in any situation. But I do like urban' s point you really can't mess up, if you look for compatibility. Lying to yourself is the worst thing you can do
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The Only Three Reasons She Left You
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- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Well you could also say an alpha male doesn't follow society's rules of what it means to "mess up".
You only mess up if you do something that is not in line with our own values. You don't mess up when you do something not in line with a woman's values.
Nope. VALUE is the reason.
You're not going to throw away the best man you can get because he cheats.
Also the concept of "self-esteem" today is what's wrong with this culture. This idea that anything that offends your frail ego must be removed from your life forever lol.
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If he cheats, he's not the best man you can get.
Says who?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Just another way of looking at it.
Depends on how much the woman values loyalty, I suppose.
Personally, I could never respect a woman who is okay with her husband/boyfriend/whatever sleeping around.
Some women VALUE loyalty and would say he is not the best man by virtue of having cheated.
Value doesn't exist in a vacuum. It's based on other things. You and I don't value the exact same things. Some guys would rather have a fat wife for 5 years than an HB9 for a month.
It's like saying "She's with him because HAPPINESS".
I don't support cheating. Just saying people will always stick to whatever they BELIEVE to be their best option. The more VALUE you hold in that person's eyes, the more you can get away with.
Of course. But forgiving someone is not the same as being ok with it.
A high VALUE man will get more chances. A low value men will be out the door the minute her ego is bruised.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.