29 straight times is overkill in any situation. But I do like urban' s point you really can't mess up, if you look for compatibility. Lying to yourself is the worst thing you can do
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The Only Three Reasons She Left You
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- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Well you could also say an alpha male doesn't follow society's rules of what it means to "mess up".
You only mess up if you do something that is not in line with our own values. You don't mess up when you do something not in line with a woman's values.
Nope. VALUE is the reason.
You're not going to throw away the best man you can get because he cheats.
Also the concept of "self-esteem" today is what's wrong with this culture. This idea that anything that offends your frail ego must be removed from your life forever lol.
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If he cheats, he's not the best man you can get.
Says who?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Just another way of looking at it.
Depends on how much the woman values loyalty, I suppose.
Personally, I could never respect a woman who is okay with her husband/boyfriend/whatever sleeping around.
Some women VALUE loyalty and would say he is not the best man by virtue of having cheated.
Value doesn't exist in a vacuum. It's based on other things. You and I don't value the exact same things. Some guys would rather have a fat wife for 5 years than an HB9 for a month.
It's like saying "She's with him because HAPPINESS".
I don't support cheating. Just saying people will always stick to whatever they BELIEVE to be their best option. The more VALUE you hold in that person's eyes, the more you can get away with.
Of course. But forgiving someone is not the same as being ok with it.
A high VALUE man will get more chances. A low value men will be out the door the minute her ego is bruised.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.