29 straight times is overkill in any situation. But I do like urban' s point you really can't mess up, if you look for compatibility. Lying to yourself is the worst thing you can do
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well you could also say an alpha male doesn't follow society's rules of what it means to "mess up".
You only mess up if you do something that is not in line with our own values. You don't mess up when you do something not in line with a woman's values.
Nope. VALUE is the reason.
You're not going to throw away the best man you can get because he cheats.
Also the concept of "self-esteem" today is what's wrong with this culture. This idea that anything that offends your frail ego must be removed from your life forever lol.
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If he cheats, he's not the best man you can get.
Says who?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Just another way of looking at it.
Depends on how much the woman values loyalty, I suppose.
Personally, I could never respect a woman who is okay with her husband/boyfriend/whatever sleeping around.
Some women VALUE loyalty and would say he is not the best man by virtue of having cheated.
Value doesn't exist in a vacuum. It's based on other things. You and I don't value the exact same things. Some guys would rather have a fat wife for 5 years than an HB9 for a month.
It's like saying "She's with him because HAPPINESS".
I don't support cheating. Just saying people will always stick to whatever they BELIEVE to be their best option. The more VALUE you hold in that person's eyes, the more you can get away with.
Of course. But forgiving someone is not the same as being ok with it.
A high VALUE man will get more chances. A low value men will be out the door the minute her ego is bruised.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.