"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The online dating profile contest

Jitterbug

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Wilko

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I didn't have to read very far before something became apparent. Namely, the winning profiles are a boring, uncreative persons idea of what a good profile ought to look like (gee, who could I be talking about?!). It's the same reason why shows like American Idol manage to pull such huge ratings - they have broad, mainstream appeal, but just because something is popular, it doesn't necessarily follow that it's any good.

I've met some pretty discerning women online and I can promise you they'd find the three winning examples pretty gag-worthy. But, nauseating pap like that might work just fine on less discriminating women. Additionally, I don't doubt that even in a competition like this there would be a huge disconnect between what women say they like, and what they actually act on.
 

Wilko

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Just to expand on that, you can be fairly sure that the winners won because they had mild appeal to a large number of women. Mild appeal might get you new contacts, or help you win a "best profile" competition, but it's not going to get you laid.

A shorter, more polarising profile is going to screen for intense like/dislike. Intense appeal to a smaller group of women is going to result in more lays than lukewarm appeal to a larger group of women. If you're not alienating anybody with your profile, the "flavour" isn't strong enough yet. Strong flavours, intense like/dislike. Get it?
 

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Like online dating has any significance.
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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A blank profile with a picture of a handsome man with abs trumps any of those lame profiles any day.

And what's funny is that it would get "bad reviews" because the guy would be seen as "arrogant" for showing off his body and all. Yet the first women to message him would be these "judges". Guaranteed. :crackup:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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