"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The online dating profile contest

Jitterbug

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Wilko

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I didn't have to read very far before something became apparent. Namely, the winning profiles are a boring, uncreative persons idea of what a good profile ought to look like (gee, who could I be talking about?!). It's the same reason why shows like American Idol manage to pull such huge ratings - they have broad, mainstream appeal, but just because something is popular, it doesn't necessarily follow that it's any good.

I've met some pretty discerning women online and I can promise you they'd find the three winning examples pretty gag-worthy. But, nauseating pap like that might work just fine on less discriminating women. Additionally, I don't doubt that even in a competition like this there would be a huge disconnect between what women say they like, and what they actually act on.
 

Wilko

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Just to expand on that, you can be fairly sure that the winners won because they had mild appeal to a large number of women. Mild appeal might get you new contacts, or help you win a "best profile" competition, but it's not going to get you laid.

A shorter, more polarising profile is going to screen for intense like/dislike. Intense appeal to a smaller group of women is going to result in more lays than lukewarm appeal to a larger group of women. If you're not alienating anybody with your profile, the "flavour" isn't strong enough yet. Strong flavours, intense like/dislike. Get it?
 

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Like online dating has any significance.
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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A blank profile with a picture of a handsome man with abs trumps any of those lame profiles any day.

And what's funny is that it would get "bad reviews" because the guy would be seen as "arrogant" for showing off his body and all. Yet the first women to message him would be these "judges". Guaranteed. :crackup:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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