"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The one hour max rule

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Hey guys I want to put this out here because I think it is massively overlooked. This is specific to strength training. The idea is that for 90 plus percent of my workouts I keep it to 60 minutes maximum not including warm up time/sets. The reasoning is that you body perceives exercises as stress and will begin to secrete cortisol in response to it. If you workout for longer than 1 hour you are basically spinning your wheels because the cortisol to testosterone ratio becomes unfavorable. Your goal should be to raise cortisol during your workout and then very quickly bring it down post workout. You can accomplish this from the insulin response of a post workout meal. What do you guys think? How long are your workouts usually?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Depends how I feel, sometimes 2h, other times 20m, just go based on what I feel needs to be done and a 2h workout is the best, the other day I spent 2h on my upper body I felt like a God after
 

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I always go less than an hour except back day can cut it close. Too many exercises
 

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depends on if I am intentionally burning or want to pump up. sometimes just don't want to stop yet.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I try and keep mine under 30 minutes. Low to no rest periods. Intensity always beats length of time in terms of results.
 

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I almost always workout for about 25-45 min, excluding warm ups. I go hard and fast, for instance I'll do 4 ramping sets of 5 deadlifts and 4 supersets of dips and pullups, and I'm done in 25 min. If I exceed go over 45 min typically start to feel like absolute **** for the rest of the day.

If you do meme lifts with machines/dumbbells or cheat reps every time, I can see how people would think lifting for 1-2 hrs is normal.

I do make an exception for HIIT because I like to run 3 miles to the track, do about 30-45 min of HIIT sprints, then run back, typically exceeding 2 hrs. I only do this once a week, however I always feel fantastic after doing it.
 
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Hey guys I want to put this out here because I think it is massively overlooked. This is specific to strength training. The idea is that for 90 plus percent of my workouts I keep it to 60 minutes maximum not including warm up time/sets. The reasoning is that you body perceives exercises as stress and will begin to secrete cortisol in response to it. If you workout for longer than 1 hour you are basically spinning your wheels because the cortisol to testosterone ratio becomes unfavorable. Your goal should be to raise cortisol during your workout and then very quickly bring it down post workout. You can accomplish this from the insulin response of a post workout meal. What do you guys think? How long are your workouts usually?
Well, studies HAVE shown that during the 61st minute of your workout, the cholesterol fairy will fly into the gym, wave her wand and shrink your muscles, zap your testosterone, and add a pound of fat directly to your belly for every extra minute you spend in the weight room.

Pardon my sarcasm OP, but there is no way to put a time stamp on your workout. What works for you works for you, but there has never been and will never be a one size fits all. Sometimes I workout longer than 60 minutes, sometimes less, depending on what I’m focusing on. And I used to be a personal trainer, so I know what I’m talking about. Workout times can vary hugely from 20 minutes to even 90. And it can even go past that if you are doing an endurance-based workout that employs a lot of bodyweight exercises (crunches, push-ups, planks, etc.)

In case anybody is wondering, my upper-body workout takes a little over an hour, and my lower-body workout takes about 40 minutes. I’ve been working out in almost entirely the same way (gradually increasing weight as my physique gets better) since I was 15.
 

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Hey guys I want to put this out here because I think it is massively overlooked. This is specific to strength training. The idea is that for 90 plus percent of my workouts I keep it to 60 minutes maximum not including warm up time/sets. The reasoning is that you body perceives exercises as stress and will begin to secrete cortisol in response to it. If you workout for longer than 1 hour you are basically spinning your wheels because the cortisol to testosterone ratio becomes unfavorable. Your goal should be to raise cortisol during your workout and then very quickly bring it down post workout. You can accomplish this from the insulin response of a post workout meal. What do you guys think? How long are your workouts usually?
Cortisol is a major beeotch, and you are on the right path to minimizing it, even if one does shorter but multiple workouts instead.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well, studies HAVE shown that during the 61st minute of your workout, the cholesterol fairy will fly into the gym, wave her wand and shrink your muscles, zap your testosterone, and add a pound of fat directly to your belly for every extra minute you spend in the weight room.

Pardon my sarcasm OP, but there is no way to put a time stamp on your workout. What works for you works for you, but there has never been and will never be a one size fits all. Sometimes I workout longer than 60 minutes, sometimes less, depending on what I’m focusing on. And I used to be a personal trainer, so I know what I’m talking about. Workout times can vary hugely from 20 minutes to even 90. And it can even go past that if you are doing an endurance-based workout that employs a lot of bodyweight exercises (crunches, push-ups, planks, etc.)

In case anybody is wondering, my upper-body workout takes a little over an hour, and my lower-body workout takes about 40 minutes. I’ve been working out in almost entirely the same way (gradually increasing weight as my physique gets better) since I was 15.
Haha I actually just spend 62 minutes in the gym and lost all my gains from last year.
 

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I almost always workout for about 25-45 min, excluding warm ups. I go hard and fast, for instance I'll do 4 ramping sets of 5 deadlifts and 4 supersets of dips and pullups, and I'm done in 25 min. If I exceed go over 45 min typically start to feel like absolute **** for the rest of the day.

If you do meme lifts with machines/dumbbells or cheat reps every time, I can see how people would think lifting for 1-2 hrs is normal.

I do make an exception for HIIT because I like to run 3 miles to the track, do about 30-45 min of HIIT sprints, then run back, typically exceeding 2 hrs. I only do this once a week, however I always feel fantastic after doing it.
I have a lot of days like you described. To me it is all about efficiency
 

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Depends how I feel, sometimes 2h, other times 20m, just go based on what I feel needs to be done and a 2h workout is the best, the other day I spent 2h on my upper body I felt like a God after
Truth. cannot argue with that. You ever do multiple 2 hour workouts/ week?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Great share!

From a strength training perspective.

I do 1 exercise of 5 hard sets of 5 repetitions per body part.

Two body parts a day.

That's 50 hard reps a day.

This does not include warm ups sets which are about 30 reps for both body parts.

Each rep is about 4 seconds.

= 320 seconds. ~ 6 minutes.

After each set I rest for 1-3 minutes ~ 30 minutes.

Isolation 2 exercise x 3 sets x 10-15 reps for each body part

Warm up ~ 15 minutes if mobility before the workout.

Post stretch ~ 10 minutes

That's about 60-90 minutes.

Progression of strength hasn't flatlined since three years ago when I started.

Nutrition is maxxed out tho.

YMMV.
 

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Great share!

From a strength training perspective.

I do 1 exercise of 5 hard sets of 5 repetitions per body part.

Two body parts a day.

That's 50 hard reps a day.

This does not include warm ups sets which are about 30 reps for both body parts.

Each rep is about 4 seconds.

= 320 seconds. ~ 6 minutes.

After each set I rest for 1-3 minutes ~ 30 minutes.

Isolation 2 exercise x 3 sets x 10-15 reps for each body part

Warm up ~ 15 minutes if mobility before the workout.

Post stretch ~ 10 minutes

That's about 60-90 minutes.

Progression of strength hasn't flatlined since three years ago when I started.

Nutrition is maxxed out tho.

YMMV.
Thanks! I like the approach to your routine. Are you training for purely strength? and you have been doing this exact routine for 3 years and continually made progress? That's impressive.
 

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Thanks! I like the approach to your routine. Are you training for purely strength? and you have been doing this exact routine for 3 years and continually made progress? That's impressive.
Correct.
The progress has not been linear but in short jumps. Not sure why that happens.

Had a 50 pound strength gain on squats in the last 2 months itself. That's more than the previous 6 months combined.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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