"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The one hour max rule

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Hey guys I want to put this out here because I think it is massively overlooked. This is specific to strength training. The idea is that for 90 plus percent of my workouts I keep it to 60 minutes maximum not including warm up time/sets. The reasoning is that you body perceives exercises as stress and will begin to secrete cortisol in response to it. If you workout for longer than 1 hour you are basically spinning your wheels because the cortisol to testosterone ratio becomes unfavorable. Your goal should be to raise cortisol during your workout and then very quickly bring it down post workout. You can accomplish this from the insulin response of a post workout meal. What do you guys think? How long are your workouts usually?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Depends how I feel, sometimes 2h, other times 20m, just go based on what I feel needs to be done and a 2h workout is the best, the other day I spent 2h on my upper body I felt like a God after
 

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I always go less than an hour except back day can cut it close. Too many exercises
 

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depends on if I am intentionally burning or want to pump up. sometimes just don't want to stop yet.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I try and keep mine under 30 minutes. Low to no rest periods. Intensity always beats length of time in terms of results.
 

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I almost always workout for about 25-45 min, excluding warm ups. I go hard and fast, for instance I'll do 4 ramping sets of 5 deadlifts and 4 supersets of dips and pullups, and I'm done in 25 min. If I exceed go over 45 min typically start to feel like absolute **** for the rest of the day.

If you do meme lifts with machines/dumbbells or cheat reps every time, I can see how people would think lifting for 1-2 hrs is normal.

I do make an exception for HIIT because I like to run 3 miles to the track, do about 30-45 min of HIIT sprints, then run back, typically exceeding 2 hrs. I only do this once a week, however I always feel fantastic after doing it.
 
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Hey guys I want to put this out here because I think it is massively overlooked. This is specific to strength training. The idea is that for 90 plus percent of my workouts I keep it to 60 minutes maximum not including warm up time/sets. The reasoning is that you body perceives exercises as stress and will begin to secrete cortisol in response to it. If you workout for longer than 1 hour you are basically spinning your wheels because the cortisol to testosterone ratio becomes unfavorable. Your goal should be to raise cortisol during your workout and then very quickly bring it down post workout. You can accomplish this from the insulin response of a post workout meal. What do you guys think? How long are your workouts usually?
Well, studies HAVE shown that during the 61st minute of your workout, the cholesterol fairy will fly into the gym, wave her wand and shrink your muscles, zap your testosterone, and add a pound of fat directly to your belly for every extra minute you spend in the weight room.

Pardon my sarcasm OP, but there is no way to put a time stamp on your workout. What works for you works for you, but there has never been and will never be a one size fits all. Sometimes I workout longer than 60 minutes, sometimes less, depending on what I’m focusing on. And I used to be a personal trainer, so I know what I’m talking about. Workout times can vary hugely from 20 minutes to even 90. And it can even go past that if you are doing an endurance-based workout that employs a lot of bodyweight exercises (crunches, push-ups, planks, etc.)

In case anybody is wondering, my upper-body workout takes a little over an hour, and my lower-body workout takes about 40 minutes. I’ve been working out in almost entirely the same way (gradually increasing weight as my physique gets better) since I was 15.
 

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Hey guys I want to put this out here because I think it is massively overlooked. This is specific to strength training. The idea is that for 90 plus percent of my workouts I keep it to 60 minutes maximum not including warm up time/sets. The reasoning is that you body perceives exercises as stress and will begin to secrete cortisol in response to it. If you workout for longer than 1 hour you are basically spinning your wheels because the cortisol to testosterone ratio becomes unfavorable. Your goal should be to raise cortisol during your workout and then very quickly bring it down post workout. You can accomplish this from the insulin response of a post workout meal. What do you guys think? How long are your workouts usually?
Cortisol is a major beeotch, and you are on the right path to minimizing it, even if one does shorter but multiple workouts instead.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well, studies HAVE shown that during the 61st minute of your workout, the cholesterol fairy will fly into the gym, wave her wand and shrink your muscles, zap your testosterone, and add a pound of fat directly to your belly for every extra minute you spend in the weight room.

Pardon my sarcasm OP, but there is no way to put a time stamp on your workout. What works for you works for you, but there has never been and will never be a one size fits all. Sometimes I workout longer than 60 minutes, sometimes less, depending on what I’m focusing on. And I used to be a personal trainer, so I know what I’m talking about. Workout times can vary hugely from 20 minutes to even 90. And it can even go past that if you are doing an endurance-based workout that employs a lot of bodyweight exercises (crunches, push-ups, planks, etc.)

In case anybody is wondering, my upper-body workout takes a little over an hour, and my lower-body workout takes about 40 minutes. I’ve been working out in almost entirely the same way (gradually increasing weight as my physique gets better) since I was 15.
Haha I actually just spend 62 minutes in the gym and lost all my gains from last year.
 

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I almost always workout for about 25-45 min, excluding warm ups. I go hard and fast, for instance I'll do 4 ramping sets of 5 deadlifts and 4 supersets of dips and pullups, and I'm done in 25 min. If I exceed go over 45 min typically start to feel like absolute **** for the rest of the day.

If you do meme lifts with machines/dumbbells or cheat reps every time, I can see how people would think lifting for 1-2 hrs is normal.

I do make an exception for HIIT because I like to run 3 miles to the track, do about 30-45 min of HIIT sprints, then run back, typically exceeding 2 hrs. I only do this once a week, however I always feel fantastic after doing it.
I have a lot of days like you described. To me it is all about efficiency
 

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Depends how I feel, sometimes 2h, other times 20m, just go based on what I feel needs to be done and a 2h workout is the best, the other day I spent 2h on my upper body I felt like a God after
Truth. cannot argue with that. You ever do multiple 2 hour workouts/ week?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Great share!

From a strength training perspective.

I do 1 exercise of 5 hard sets of 5 repetitions per body part.

Two body parts a day.

That's 50 hard reps a day.

This does not include warm ups sets which are about 30 reps for both body parts.

Each rep is about 4 seconds.

= 320 seconds. ~ 6 minutes.

After each set I rest for 1-3 minutes ~ 30 minutes.

Isolation 2 exercise x 3 sets x 10-15 reps for each body part

Warm up ~ 15 minutes if mobility before the workout.

Post stretch ~ 10 minutes

That's about 60-90 minutes.

Progression of strength hasn't flatlined since three years ago when I started.

Nutrition is maxxed out tho.

YMMV.
 

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Great share!

From a strength training perspective.

I do 1 exercise of 5 hard sets of 5 repetitions per body part.

Two body parts a day.

That's 50 hard reps a day.

This does not include warm ups sets which are about 30 reps for both body parts.

Each rep is about 4 seconds.

= 320 seconds. ~ 6 minutes.

After each set I rest for 1-3 minutes ~ 30 minutes.

Isolation 2 exercise x 3 sets x 10-15 reps for each body part

Warm up ~ 15 minutes if mobility before the workout.

Post stretch ~ 10 minutes

That's about 60-90 minutes.

Progression of strength hasn't flatlined since three years ago when I started.

Nutrition is maxxed out tho.

YMMV.
Thanks! I like the approach to your routine. Are you training for purely strength? and you have been doing this exact routine for 3 years and continually made progress? That's impressive.
 

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Thanks! I like the approach to your routine. Are you training for purely strength? and you have been doing this exact routine for 3 years and continually made progress? That's impressive.
Correct.
The progress has not been linear but in short jumps. Not sure why that happens.

Had a 50 pound strength gain on squats in the last 2 months itself. That's more than the previous 6 months combined.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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