"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Reyaj

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With so many multiple threads on the same topics lets make an official one.

So many opinions on how to handle this. What I think from my experience if possible be calm cool and collected and accept the girl's proposal. Act like you are completely unaffected but take away the attention you have given her and openly Alpha yourself by indirectly showing what a great catch you are. You should basically consider the girl as nexted unless you truly value her friendship.

I disagree with with a lot have said to reject this; it shows you are affected and somewhat of a spoiled child in her view. Living well without her affecting your life is more attractive to her than anything.


If you read my Social Experiment I did this with a girl and she is sweating me like crazy. I value her as a friend which is why I keep her around but she definitely realizes she misses out. Just don't accept the LBJF as a ploy to get her because she isn't worth it. Let whatever happens as a result of it happen naturally.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jayer,
I agree with your points. One thing I do not belive on this board is nexting. My philosophy is of you can't have her then be friends with her becuase she might have some hot roommates or other friends that she can introduce you too.
What I don't like is girls, when you try to be their friends, not even giving you the time of day. But then when they need something, they call you out of the blue and ask you to do them a favor.

I think most guys will get ticked off when they get flaked on, but I think the ones that handle life the best are the ones that can say, oh well, laugh it off, and on to the next target.
 

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I agree..... its just that I think a lot of girls just give the LJBF line without really meaning it and just use it as a nexter for you........

If it isn't genuine you really have no shot with her friends anyways cause she has little respect for you
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My plan and back up plan for a girl who LJBFs me
Plan A) Mention something about another girl I'm seeing. Something like "yeah this girl I'm seeing she goes to that place too...". Jealousy is a powerful thing.
Plan B) If A doesn't work then I delete her number. 60% of the time they call a few weeks later. Then you can make a fresh start.
 

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is the LJBF line only for americans or what? i've never heard "let's just be friend" line in my high school (canada), high schoolers don't use it?
 
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