You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
is an excerpt from:A. Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent and intense sexual
fantasies, sexual urges, or sexual behaviors in association with 3 or
more of the following 5 criteria:
A1. Time consumed by sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors repetitively
interferes with other important (non-sexual) goals, activities and
obligations.
A2. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to dysphoric mood states (e.g., anxiety, depression,
boredom, irritability).
A3. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to stressful life events.
A4. Repetitive but unsuccessful efforts to control or significantly
reduce these sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors.
A5. Repetitively engaging in sexual behaviors while disregarding the
risk for physical or emotional harm to self or others.
B. There is clinically significant personal distress or impairment in
social, occupational or other important areas of functioning
associated with the frequency and intensity of these sexual fantasies,
urges or behaviors.
C. These sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors are not due to the direct
physiological effect of an exogenous substance (e.g., a drug of abuse
or a medication)
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You must exhaust yourself @ day time, if you have trouble sleeping at night you've already screwed yourself.Solomon said:day 3
I'm suffering guys
I've been going ham at the gym doing HIIT, I literally feel like a walking hormone
nights are the hardest, I can't sleep....
I don't know wtf to do....aaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrghhhhhhhh
Boilermaker said:You guys need a psychiatry primer.
Bottom-line is: In order for masturbation to be a sexual disorder that is outlined in DSM-V (like the proposed hyper-sexuality disorder in the following paper), it needs to meet the following criteria:
is an excerpt from:
http://www.dsm5.org/Documents/Sex and GID Lit Reviews/Paraphilias/KAFKAHD.pdf
Now Solomon et. al. must ask themselves whether they are at all close to meeting the criteria outlined above. If the answer is no, you are doing self-torture for no reason, and losing your confidence in the process - because you keep failing a futile challenge.
The key is functioning in a lot of newly proposed disorders in psychiatry. IF you are functioning, your diagnosis could be different from a guy who exactly engages in the same behavior, but cannot function.
I think this is the reason for many compulsory masturbators, masturbation is no longer a sexual release but a stress reliever.A2. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to dysphoric mood states (e.g., anxiety, depression,
boredom, irritability).
A3. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to stressful life events.
I work a office job....Dedication said:You must exhaust yourself @ day time, if you have trouble sleeping at night you've already screwed yourself.
You can also choose to sleep 2-3 hours later, not ideal but i don't see another option. Thats how i always dealt with it if i ****ed up @ day time.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Hey man I wanna help you out! Can you gimme your e-mail or msn? Something like dat.Rocky92 said:I am on day 16 and something has scared the **** out of me. For the first week and a half I felt great. But today I saw the finest female in these tight yoga pants...something that I would have gone crazy over before, but I felt nothing!!!? Has anybody experienced this? I am on the verge of calling it quits and need advice. Ishould have a raging sex drive at this point right??
Has anybody experienced this? I would appreciate advice from experience rather than a theory because I know many of us are hyped up on the positives of it(as I was too) but I need to kno for sure, I dont wanna end up with ED or some ****. Mayb its because ive been completely dry (no gf at this point). but I have heard alot about this 7 to 10 day peak and then dropp off point. Idk, I am confused at it all. but I dont know wat to do. Has anybody experienced it but kept going and felt it return? Im very motivated but if I feel that my **** is goin dead than ill jump off thw wagon rite here
Somebody please help me out!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.