She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
is an excerpt from:A. Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent and intense sexual
fantasies, sexual urges, or sexual behaviors in association with 3 or
more of the following 5 criteria:
A1. Time consumed by sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors repetitively
interferes with other important (non-sexual) goals, activities and
obligations.
A2. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to dysphoric mood states (e.g., anxiety, depression,
boredom, irritability).
A3. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to stressful life events.
A4. Repetitive but unsuccessful efforts to control or significantly
reduce these sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors.
A5. Repetitively engaging in sexual behaviors while disregarding the
risk for physical or emotional harm to self or others.
B. There is clinically significant personal distress or impairment in
social, occupational or other important areas of functioning
associated with the frequency and intensity of these sexual fantasies,
urges or behaviors.
C. These sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors are not due to the direct
physiological effect of an exogenous substance (e.g., a drug of abuse
or a medication)
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You must exhaust yourself @ day time, if you have trouble sleeping at night you've already screwed yourself.Solomon said:day 3
I'm suffering guys
I've been going ham at the gym doing HIIT, I literally feel like a walking hormone
nights are the hardest, I can't sleep....
I don't know wtf to do....aaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrghhhhhhhh
Boilermaker said:You guys need a psychiatry primer.
Bottom-line is: In order for masturbation to be a sexual disorder that is outlined in DSM-V (like the proposed hyper-sexuality disorder in the following paper), it needs to meet the following criteria:
is an excerpt from:
http://www.dsm5.org/Documents/Sex and GID Lit Reviews/Paraphilias/KAFKAHD.pdf
Now Solomon et. al. must ask themselves whether they are at all close to meeting the criteria outlined above. If the answer is no, you are doing self-torture for no reason, and losing your confidence in the process - because you keep failing a futile challenge.
The key is functioning in a lot of newly proposed disorders in psychiatry. IF you are functioning, your diagnosis could be different from a guy who exactly engages in the same behavior, but cannot function.
I think this is the reason for many compulsory masturbators, masturbation is no longer a sexual release but a stress reliever.A2. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to dysphoric mood states (e.g., anxiety, depression,
boredom, irritability).
A3. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to stressful life events.
I work a office job....Dedication said:You must exhaust yourself @ day time, if you have trouble sleeping at night you've already screwed yourself.
You can also choose to sleep 2-3 hours later, not ideal but i don't see another option. Thats how i always dealt with it if i ****ed up @ day time.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Hey man I wanna help you out! Can you gimme your e-mail or msn? Something like dat.Rocky92 said:I am on day 16 and something has scared the **** out of me. For the first week and a half I felt great. But today I saw the finest female in these tight yoga pants...something that I would have gone crazy over before, but I felt nothing!!!? Has anybody experienced this? I am on the verge of calling it quits and need advice. Ishould have a raging sex drive at this point right??
Has anybody experienced this? I would appreciate advice from experience rather than a theory because I know many of us are hyped up on the positives of it(as I was too) but I need to kno for sure, I dont wanna end up with ED or some ****. Mayb its because ive been completely dry (no gf at this point). but I have heard alot about this 7 to 10 day peak and then dropp off point. Idk, I am confused at it all. but I dont know wat to do. Has anybody experienced it but kept going and felt it return? Im very motivated but if I feel that my **** is goin dead than ill jump off thw wagon rite here
Somebody please help me out!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.