You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
is an excerpt from:A. Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent and intense sexual
fantasies, sexual urges, or sexual behaviors in association with 3 or
more of the following 5 criteria:
A1. Time consumed by sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors repetitively
interferes with other important (non-sexual) goals, activities and
obligations.
A2. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to dysphoric mood states (e.g., anxiety, depression,
boredom, irritability).
A3. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to stressful life events.
A4. Repetitive but unsuccessful efforts to control or significantly
reduce these sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors.
A5. Repetitively engaging in sexual behaviors while disregarding the
risk for physical or emotional harm to self or others.
B. There is clinically significant personal distress or impairment in
social, occupational or other important areas of functioning
associated with the frequency and intensity of these sexual fantasies,
urges or behaviors.
C. These sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors are not due to the direct
physiological effect of an exogenous substance (e.g., a drug of abuse
or a medication)
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You must exhaust yourself @ day time, if you have trouble sleeping at night you've already screwed yourself.Solomon said:day 3
I'm suffering guys
I've been going ham at the gym doing HIIT, I literally feel like a walking hormone
nights are the hardest, I can't sleep....
I don't know wtf to do....aaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrghhhhhhhh
Boilermaker said:You guys need a psychiatry primer.
Bottom-line is: In order for masturbation to be a sexual disorder that is outlined in DSM-V (like the proposed hyper-sexuality disorder in the following paper), it needs to meet the following criteria:
is an excerpt from:
http://www.dsm5.org/Documents/Sex and GID Lit Reviews/Paraphilias/KAFKAHD.pdf
Now Solomon et. al. must ask themselves whether they are at all close to meeting the criteria outlined above. If the answer is no, you are doing self-torture for no reason, and losing your confidence in the process - because you keep failing a futile challenge.
The key is functioning in a lot of newly proposed disorders in psychiatry. IF you are functioning, your diagnosis could be different from a guy who exactly engages in the same behavior, but cannot function.
I think this is the reason for many compulsory masturbators, masturbation is no longer a sexual release but a stress reliever.A2. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to dysphoric mood states (e.g., anxiety, depression,
boredom, irritability).
A3. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in
response to stressful life events.
I work a office job....Dedication said:You must exhaust yourself @ day time, if you have trouble sleeping at night you've already screwed yourself.
You can also choose to sleep 2-3 hours later, not ideal but i don't see another option. Thats how i always dealt with it if i ****ed up @ day time.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hey man I wanna help you out! Can you gimme your e-mail or msn? Something like dat.Rocky92 said:I am on day 16 and something has scared the **** out of me. For the first week and a half I felt great. But today I saw the finest female in these tight yoga pants...something that I would have gone crazy over before, but I felt nothing!!!? Has anybody experienced this? I am on the verge of calling it quits and need advice. Ishould have a raging sex drive at this point right??
Has anybody experienced this? I would appreciate advice from experience rather than a theory because I know many of us are hyped up on the positives of it(as I was too) but I need to kno for sure, I dont wanna end up with ED or some ****. Mayb its because ive been completely dry (no gf at this point). but I have heard alot about this 7 to 10 day peak and then dropp off point. Idk, I am confused at it all. but I dont know wat to do. Has anybody experienced it but kept going and felt it return? Im very motivated but if I feel that my **** is goin dead than ill jump off thw wagon rite here
Somebody please help me out!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.