Eternal_water
Master Don Juan
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Are you more succesful with them?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Now, I'm far from a chronic masturbater, but I have never reached anywhere close to 100 days (45-ish is my max). Everything you describe as to what you like better now that you have stopped, I experience now even when I'm not trying to stop. I always notice those little things about a girl, and I actually blame that on why I am so picky. People will point out some girl they think is hot, and then I'll comment on something about her they never even noticed.HariPoter13 said:I recently passed the 100 day mark and lately I noticed a definite change in the way I percieve women. Now it's less about their absolute physical appearance and more about tiny little details I didn't notice before like the way they walk, talk, dance, smile, look, wiggle their nose, their personality, ... Truth be told, I like it this way better. Plus, I don't feel randomly depressed anymore.
Tho, you should know about this little trick I started using. Before I would get say up to 40 days, then slip, reset to 0 and lose all motivation. Not good. This time I slipped around day 35 and I told myself I ain't counting this. I'm gonna cheat. No motivation lost. Then same thing around day 80 - cheat and don't lose motivation. Be smart, trick your own mind if you have to. Btw, I feel no urge to watch porn/fap anymore. I only crave women![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Damn, dude. Impressive. Any benefit to abstaining that long? Was there any noticeable difference between 2 weeks and 2 months?ScottMustaine said:Day 1.
Managed 5 months.
I see this whole thing differently than you guys do.Solomon said:Weird paradgim shift
I don't fap I go hard in the gym
I fap I still go hard in the gym
anyway sorry Guys I haven't updated
Day 1 (again)
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I believe physically the body can't tell the diference between sex and masturbation, it's all just ejaculation.Solomon said:^^what about sex then, does that logic apply as well?
PrettyBoyA said:Read this great article for a better explanation:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...-the-cowardly-lion-just-masturbating-too-much
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20088868RESULTS:
A wide range of better psychological and physiological health indices are associated specifically with penile-vaginal intercourse. Other sexual activities have weaker, no, or (in the cases of masturbation and anal intercourse) inverse associations with health indices. Condom use appears to impair some benefits of penile-vaginal intercourse. Only a few of the research designs allow for causal inferences.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.