Eternal_water
Master Don Juan
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Are you more succesful with them?
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Now, I'm far from a chronic masturbater, but I have never reached anywhere close to 100 days (45-ish is my max). Everything you describe as to what you like better now that you have stopped, I experience now even when I'm not trying to stop. I always notice those little things about a girl, and I actually blame that on why I am so picky. People will point out some girl they think is hot, and then I'll comment on something about her they never even noticed.HariPoter13 said:I recently passed the 100 day mark and lately I noticed a definite change in the way I percieve women. Now it's less about their absolute physical appearance and more about tiny little details I didn't notice before like the way they walk, talk, dance, smile, look, wiggle their nose, their personality, ... Truth be told, I like it this way better. Plus, I don't feel randomly depressed anymore.
Tho, you should know about this little trick I started using. Before I would get say up to 40 days, then slip, reset to 0 and lose all motivation. Not good. This time I slipped around day 35 and I told myself I ain't counting this. I'm gonna cheat. No motivation lost. Then same thing around day 80 - cheat and don't lose motivation. Be smart, trick your own mind if you have to. Btw, I feel no urge to watch porn/fap anymore. I only crave women![]()
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Damn, dude. Impressive. Any benefit to abstaining that long? Was there any noticeable difference between 2 weeks and 2 months?ScottMustaine said:Day 1.
Managed 5 months.
I see this whole thing differently than you guys do.Solomon said:Weird paradgim shift
I don't fap I go hard in the gym
I fap I still go hard in the gym
anyway sorry Guys I haven't updated
Day 1 (again)
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I believe physically the body can't tell the diference between sex and masturbation, it's all just ejaculation.Solomon said:^^what about sex then, does that logic apply as well?
PrettyBoyA said:Read this great article for a better explanation:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...-the-cowardly-lion-just-masturbating-too-much
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20088868RESULTS:
A wide range of better psychological and physiological health indices are associated specifically with penile-vaginal intercourse. Other sexual activities have weaker, no, or (in the cases of masturbation and anal intercourse) inverse associations with health indices. Condom use appears to impair some benefits of penile-vaginal intercourse. Only a few of the research designs allow for causal inferences.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.