Eternal_water
Master Don Juan
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Are you more succesful with them?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Now, I'm far from a chronic masturbater, but I have never reached anywhere close to 100 days (45-ish is my max). Everything you describe as to what you like better now that you have stopped, I experience now even when I'm not trying to stop. I always notice those little things about a girl, and I actually blame that on why I am so picky. People will point out some girl they think is hot, and then I'll comment on something about her they never even noticed.HariPoter13 said:I recently passed the 100 day mark and lately I noticed a definite change in the way I percieve women. Now it's less about their absolute physical appearance and more about tiny little details I didn't notice before like the way they walk, talk, dance, smile, look, wiggle their nose, their personality, ... Truth be told, I like it this way better. Plus, I don't feel randomly depressed anymore.
Tho, you should know about this little trick I started using. Before I would get say up to 40 days, then slip, reset to 0 and lose all motivation. Not good. This time I slipped around day 35 and I told myself I ain't counting this. I'm gonna cheat. No motivation lost. Then same thing around day 80 - cheat and don't lose motivation. Be smart, trick your own mind if you have to. Btw, I feel no urge to watch porn/fap anymore. I only crave women![]()
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Damn, dude. Impressive. Any benefit to abstaining that long? Was there any noticeable difference between 2 weeks and 2 months?ScottMustaine said:Day 1.
Managed 5 months.
I see this whole thing differently than you guys do.Solomon said:Weird paradgim shift
I don't fap I go hard in the gym
I fap I still go hard in the gym
anyway sorry Guys I haven't updated
Day 1 (again)
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I believe physically the body can't tell the diference between sex and masturbation, it's all just ejaculation.Solomon said:^^what about sex then, does that logic apply as well?
PrettyBoyA said:Read this great article for a better explanation:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...-the-cowardly-lion-just-masturbating-too-much
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20088868RESULTS:
A wide range of better psychological and physiological health indices are associated specifically with penile-vaginal intercourse. Other sexual activities have weaker, no, or (in the cases of masturbation and anal intercourse) inverse associations with health indices. Condom use appears to impair some benefits of penile-vaginal intercourse. Only a few of the research designs allow for causal inferences.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.