"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
about 250. most of those are the cute wooley sheep.
this is more of a bragging thread, who cares how many females you been with. and on that note, i knew this chick who swore up and down she slept with 235 diffrent guys.
i dunno if she was bragging or warning us, about possible infection if you sleep with her =/
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
But I also pass on a lot of offers. I don't know, I'm not all about sex, I like the hunt and sometimes I feel that I could tag a girl from the first word then I often lose all interest.
But that's just me personally... I guess I'm kinda weird.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Literally lost count, but I am 36 years old, been goin out since 16, then a 10 year marriage during which I had maybe 20 flings. Average say, one a fortnight for maybe 10 years plus 20 = 280.
Sounds too much, cant be right.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
WTF!?!?!? you cheted on your wife 20 times!
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I-am-someone
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CableLight
Master Don Juan
AHAHA
It's nice to see someone who doesn't descriminate
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.