"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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the non-apology

ezio

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I am in a situation where i have to apologize for something i did, even though I would rather not, i have very little say in the matter, my question is how to do you apologize without accepting any fault or taking the blame..ie the non-apology apology.

to be honest, i am really not up in the mood to be preached to about how you should only apologize when u truly feel sorry for your actions and all that bs.. all i want is a way to say i am sorry without saying i am sorry
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Atom Smasher

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Impossible to answer without the details.
 

juicywa

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apologizing without apologizing.. wtf.. that's below AFC ****.. either apologize or don't.
 

BigSmooth

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Man up and accept your faults. Don't try to weasel your way out of there.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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betheman

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ask a politician or a psychopath
 

cablecow15

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I like to point it back at them

Im sorry you dont understand

or

Im sorry you cant handle it

or something like that , they hear the word sorry , but then there distracted by you insulting them right after lol
 

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Whenever I make a mistake i'll say something like "I didn't mean to do that" or "I thought it was a mistake doing this." then i'll explain why "dam i had like 15 beers that day I was totally out of it. I have to be more careful next time". I would only apologize directly if I did something very serious to a person and they really deserved it. "Dude your wife blew me last night, I'm so sorry!" <run away>
 

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some girl wanted to fight me and i told her i'd let her hit me 10 times and i would hit her once. I saw the fear in her but she tried to hide it.

She later came over and apologized for trying to fight me, i said "I'm sorry for making you feel the way that you feel." that was the end of it. Basically i wasn't sorry for what i said, i was sorry for scaring the sh1t out of her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yea i think some of these would work. the story here is that i had an argument with a co worker and i said some nasty things though i totally think she deserves it. the only reason i feel like i have to apologise is because i have to work alongside her and i cant pretend she doesn't exist for the rest of my life. any other scenario and I would not give fvck either way
 

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ezio said:
yea i think some of these would work. the story here is that i had an argument with a co worker and i said some nasty things though i totally think she deserves it. the only reason i feel like i have to apologise is because i have to work alongside her and i cant pretend she doesn't exist for the rest of my life. any other scenario and I would not give fvck either way
You have your answer. "She deserves it."

Don't step down if you're in the right. You're co-workers and now things will be weird? Tough s*** for her. Then she shouldn't have been such a b**** in the first place.

Unless she doesn't actually deserve it, and you're really in the wrong. If that's the case, then apologize and mean it.
 
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