"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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the non-apology

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I am in a situation where i have to apologize for something i did, even though I would rather not, i have very little say in the matter, my question is how to do you apologize without accepting any fault or taking the blame..ie the non-apology apology.

to be honest, i am really not up in the mood to be preached to about how you should only apologize when u truly feel sorry for your actions and all that bs.. all i want is a way to say i am sorry without saying i am sorry
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Impossible to answer without the details.
 
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apologizing without apologizing.. wtf.. that's below AFC ****.. either apologize or don't.
 
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Man up and accept your faults. Don't try to weasel your way out of there.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ask a politician or a psychopath
 
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I like to point it back at them

Im sorry you dont understand

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Im sorry you cant handle it

or something like that , they hear the word sorry , but then there distracted by you insulting them right after lol
 
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Whenever I make a mistake i'll say something like "I didn't mean to do that" or "I thought it was a mistake doing this." then i'll explain why "dam i had like 15 beers that day I was totally out of it. I have to be more careful next time". I would only apologize directly if I did something very serious to a person and they really deserved it. "Dude your wife blew me last night, I'm so sorry!" <run away>
 
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some girl wanted to fight me and i told her i'd let her hit me 10 times and i would hit her once. I saw the fear in her but she tried to hide it.

She later came over and apologized for trying to fight me, i said "I'm sorry for making you feel the way that you feel." that was the end of it. Basically i wasn't sorry for what i said, i was sorry for scaring the sh1t out of her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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yea i think some of these would work. the story here is that i had an argument with a co worker and i said some nasty things though i totally think she deserves it. the only reason i feel like i have to apologise is because i have to work alongside her and i cant pretend she doesn't exist for the rest of my life. any other scenario and I would not give fvck either way
 
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ezio said:
yea i think some of these would work. the story here is that i had an argument with a co worker and i said some nasty things though i totally think she deserves it. the only reason i feel like i have to apologise is because i have to work alongside her and i cant pretend she doesn't exist for the rest of my life. any other scenario and I would not give fvck either way
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You have your answer. "She deserves it."

Don't step down if you're in the right. You're co-workers and now things will be weird? Tough s*** for her. Then she shouldn't have been such a b**** in the first place.

Unless she doesn't actually deserve it, and you're really in the wrong. If that's the case, then apologize and mean it.
 
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