“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

Carpathian

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Without mobiles, Instagram, FB and all that other shlte, to keep torturing you, the most important thing to do is delete her off of every conceivable device, account and service. If you fear doing this because you've then removed all ways of her to potentially contact you in the future, you're wrong. Remember letters? Remember your friends that she could get a message to you if she wanted to?
Block and delete her off of everything.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I'm not sure if my relationship is over but it can go either way and she has told me she needs time to think what she wants.

Today has been the first day we haven't text/spoke so......

Day 1

It has been a horrible day, stayed in bed for as long as possible and wallowed in pity. Haven't wanted to do anything and even the thought of going outside seemed too much of a challenge. I plucked up the courage and went to get groceries although I was fighting back the tears walking through the store.

I haven't ate much today and feel my body shrinking, I planned on going to the gym this evening but I really don't feel up to it. I want to lie on the bed and slip into a state where this feeling evaporates temporarily.

I don't have the motivation to do a thing, I thought about booking a trip away for Christmas but I really don't have the desire to even search and look. I'm counting down the minutes and keep checking my phone to see if there is a message.

I have a sinking feeling in my stomach and I cry every 30 minutes or so. I've lost the 2 most important people in my life and typing this is killing me. Here we go....Here come the tears.

This is far too hard.
 

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This is bizarre. I had two contrasting dreams about her last night. In the first one we reconciled and she told me how much she loved me and couldn't keep her hands off me. We were in a garden party of some sort and as I was kissing her she told me to stop in a playful way as there was people there and as I was walking away she said something about getting married.

The other dream was completely different. She was having a back spasm and as I pulled her close to me to rub the pain she pushed me away from her and was acting like she didn't want me around her. Put me in a bad mood in the dream. I woke up this morning and the first feelings I had for her was anger and hatred. I was thinking about all the little things she has done over the last few months that annoyed me but those feelings soon subsided and I started missing her and pining for her again.

This is only the start of day 2.
 

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How long before she reached to you?
I dumped her so I reached out after three weeks.

Waited until I was comfortable spinning plates again and identified how to solve the issue that was preventing a better relationship.

Things are going well. We are moving back to where we were before the breakup and I am also seeing other high quality girls too.
 

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Ok you may have seen in my thread, my ex has made contact with my friends 2 weekends in a row (while I haven't been there) - it's thrown my head out of whack.

I can't stop thinking about her now, I actually despise her though and would never want to get back with her.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I did my first night out since becoming officially single last week, and was on fire from a pickup perspective. I went out with my co-workers, and went into full self-amused mastery single mode. In the span of 90 minutes, I made eye contact with and teased almost every girl around, kissed a cute girl and got her number, then went home with a college girl and had sex with her.

I tried out drama game, which Julien from RSD does, and it’s funny how effective it is. When I met the girl I took home, I made eye contact with her and she came up to me and asked me to buy her a drink (she’s poor and in college).

I went into this hilarious bullsh1t about how “all you girls are the same! I just want to open up to a good and loyal girl but you just want to get a drink out me! It’s so disgusting!”

It’s really amusing to do sh*t like this, and the girl rushed to gain my validation.

As a testament to the power of drama game, as the bars closed, the girl begged me to go home with her and promised that she’d drive me back the next day.

We had sex that night which was empty and meaningless, I ubered back from the girl’s place almost as soon as I woke up, and all today I’ve been depressed, hungover, and pining for my former girlfriend lol.

I did enjoy the experience, but ultimately the shallow sex was a drop in the bucket for the deep hole in my soul.

I will say though, bc coming out of a breakup is some deeply traumatic sh1t, it allows you to completely get rid of your fear of rejection. When you’ve just ended something with a girl you’ve loved, every other girl seems like worthless trash, which gives you the right mindset.

You look around you, and see guys standing stiffly ahead, and girls flitting around like emotional butterflies. Your mind zeroes in on the females at the bar as hilarious little girls who want you and are attracted to you, and you want to fvck around with. You don’t need them and their validation at all; your energy is self-amused and you share it with them. When you make eye contact, you might do some stupid confident little dance move while you say some mind blowingly stupid bullsh1t that makes you laugh.

In other words, you develop the mindset of “I’m going to have fun and mess around with these stupid little girls, and share my self-amused good feelings with them.”

If you have this mindset, you can say whatever comes to your mind, and practically get away with murder. I did p1ss off one girl when I commented on her earrings, but she got over it, and the rest of the girls were into what I was doing or not bothered by it.

We’ll see how many meaningless lays it takes to get over my former girlfriend.
 

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Day 1: Shes not my ex but I kinda got hooked on this girl and got a little too inteste at one point, she says she adores as a friend and a bunch other stupid **** that gets me right in the feels, but lately I feel like to her i'm very easy to side, she got mad because this weekend I gave her "too much attention", and I have done it before so it's acceptable. So I'm gonna take this challenge to see how she reacts, at first we we're going smooth in a more relationship kinda it then it dropped off. If she comes back and I'm still interested maybe some thing good will come or maybe she won't and I'd have saved myself from wasting time. In the mean time lets see what tinder is all about.
 

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Day 2: although its the second day of the challenge it’s actually like a week the me and her havent spoken, or more like I havent spoken to her because it’s always me who runs like a love sick puppy to her. I’m not sure if I really like her or if it’s just my ego not wanting to be rejected again, but whih ever the reason my lack of confidence is killing me right now. If I don’t talk to her for the whole 60 days will she really miss me? Or was everything she said about adoring me and really caring for me just lies? Right now I kinda wanna talk to her, about anything really, just to know she still even remembers I exists.
 

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Day 2: although its the second day of the challenge it’s actually like a week the me and her havent spoken, or more like I havent spoken to her because it’s always me who runs like a love sick puppy to her. I’m not sure if I really like her or if it’s just my ego not wanting to be rejected again, but whih ever the reason my lack of confidence is killing me right now. If I don’t talk to her for the whole 60 days will she really miss me? Or was everything she said about adoring me and really caring for me just lies? Right now I kinda wanna talk to her, about anything really, just to know she still even remembers I exists.
Stay strong man, do not contact her.

I know you're probably thinking in your mind, if I just send her the right message, catch her interest in the right way, then everything will turn around.

This won't happen, trust me. You'll just feel like an idiot for breaking no contact. You need to make her work for it. In fact, even if she messages you, do not respond back.

No ifs and or buts about it, do not break no contact. I'll repeat it to you 10 more times if I need to, until it becomes ingrained in your head.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I'm SO GLAD I found this forum! First post ever and let me tell you why - I was dumped today!

Girlfriend of 9 months. Great relationship. Had more ups than downs, great sex, but there was always an underlying feeling that it couldn't work long term (for reasons that no longer matter)....but today she basically gave me the "I'm not good enough for you speech" (over text no less) and how everyone in her life hates her and she doesn't want to drag me into her drama because I deserve the absolute best.....I probably made a few nice guy mistakes during that exchange (told her it made me sad, reassured her, blah blah blah). But in the end I told her I was going no contact until she felt like talking. Then I went dead silent. She didn't respond the rest of the day (All this took place around 10:00am). It's not 10:00pm and I just found this forum.

So now I shall embark on the No Contact challenge. Tomorrow will be Day 1. I already have a list of things I'm going to do with all my new spare time (and money.... haha)....funny thing is my birthday is within that 60 days and so was a trip to Florida we were planning to take. Not anymore!

well, I still get to have my birthday....
 

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Day 1

This is much harder than I thought it would be. Only 12:30pm but I haven't tried to make contact, nor will I. Radio silence from her. This will be the first time since I've known her, in 9 months, where we have not exchanged a single message. Spending my thoughts wondering what I did wrong, if she cheated, if she went back to an ex, just the overall WHY.....Also started chatting with a different gal which is definitely helping. Also trying to stay focused on the fact that we both KNEW this wouldn't work long term and that a breakup of this type was exactly how I wanted it to end. But since it has ended, the reality really hurts. Just a hard punch in the gut. Gonna hit the gym later, then dinner with family. If I can get through the day I'm hoping tomorrow will be easier.
 

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Day 5 (I think): I ve been thinking mostly about the fact that I gave a piece of myself to her, and not really about her, and my small ego has been hurting about the fact that her gratitude might haven been false... but hey the hardest part of making a change for the better is starting.
 

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Day 2

More than 48 hours in and it's very, very tough to hold off on contacting her, especially since just yesterday she sent me an "I miss you!!" text. I have been so tempted to reply to it but don't really know what to say and know it will only lead into a spiral that takes me nowhere. I'm going to hold off.

This guy Brad Browning has a great video series on No Contact that's really helping, and he talked specifically about the "I miss you" text....


He talks about the "I miss you" text right here....
 

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Day 2 (Part II)

Not 10 minutes after I wrote that post she sent me a text saying she just read a recent article that I wrote and really liked it. She had to go out of her way to get this article, and had no idea it was even on my blog, which means she consciously visited my blog which means she is thinking about me and checking up on me. That makes it easier but also MUCH harder!!
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Day 2 (Part III)

Damn this girl. Making it hard for me!!

Blows up my phone with "Hello?" "Ok fine...." type **** because I wasn't responding to anything. Then asks me a legit question about something unresolved from last week that was fairly important. I debated ignoring this but realized not responding would make it worse so I sent back a short reply, sticking to the facts and that's it.

Figured that set me back all the way and got her back in her comfort zone of having her safety net until she replied with....."I miss you!!!"

No reply from me, yet I instantly felt the balance of power shift back to me. Went out and ran 5 miles, had my best run in a month, and now I'm gonna drink a beer and so some writing. I figure I should go back to Day 0 since I replied. My head's in a good place so I think I can start fresh tomorrow on Day 1.
 

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Day 3 or 4 or something like that. Broke up 3 weeks ago and then I spent 2 weeks dkingbti most cringeworthy stuff... telling her she was perfect...sending videos apologizing..then telling her I’m so heartbroken and damaged not to text me because I lost 15 pounds and can’t wait and am barely handing on...

Lol...it’s amaxing the pathetic things you do when you are in the situation.

When she broke up with me all I said was ok if that’s you feel then all the best..

Then she started to send out feelers and i lost all frame and became a puppy

She is already seeing someone intbink

Pretty much don’t see her ever in a million years reaching out after I lost frame like that so no need to even count the days of NC.

Hard hard hard learning lesson..I’ve been on this situation so many times but always lose me **** when a girl walks away..

I think it triggers some kind of abandonment issue or opens old wounds of an ex cheating on me because I become obsessed with finding out if there is another guy..there always is but you don’t want to believe

Anyways so of course I’m having irrational thoughts like..I’ll never like someone as much..I’m never going to get laid again..I should just end me life because I’m worthless...

I know in a year from now I’ll have my heart broke from a different chick but when youbate in this spot it’s never easy
 

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Saw my ex again on Saturday in a club/rave. She was with some guy, seemed like friends and look so scared/paranoid to see me. My friend said she kept watching me and was close to me lot of times of the night but I was completely oblivious. Second time seeing her, actual words exchanged since January: 0.

I feel more over her than ever, even seeing her with guys had no impact, maybe if they were kissing or whatever... I dunno. I feel fine though, she looked ugly to me, drugged out of her mind with bloodshot eyes, no a good look. My friend went up to her and her friend while they sat, she told him to go away, I walked over and told my friend, to leave them alone, she couldn't even look me in the eye lol. I feel I won this battle. The previous time she followed me to that event but I didn't end up going, she clung to my friends all night forcing me to pen a harsh email telling her to back off. She reacted angrily and defensive and now cold shoulders my friend.

*****.
 

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Hi Reykel
 

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Ok you may have seen in my thread, my ex has made contact with my friends 2 weekends in a row (while I haven't been there) - it's thrown my head out of whack.

I can't stop thinking about her now, I actually despise her though and would never want to get back with her.
I feel the same way. I did lot of wrong sh1t in my last relationship, but in the end she jerked me around emotionally hard. I mean she was kind of just a b1tch sometimes in general, but she did take care of me and let me use her car, ect.

Something happened though after I moved out. I'm not sure if I was hacked or what, but some people were ****ing with me. I'm not sure if she had anything to do with it, but she at least knew and didn't warn me or tell me. Because of this I have no remorse and I honestly i felt so angry at times i wanted to.put a bullet in her head. She is very lucky I didn't do something crazy.

I don't care what I did wrong in the past because the way she treated me the last couple months and her not warning me is betrayal and far worse than anything I did.

At this point she deserved everything I did to her, because you know what? She was kind of a negative, bad attitude, disrespectful b1tch that would withold love and affection and disrespect me and say "if you don't Iike it leave". No wonder why i ended up getting fvcked up all the time. She knew I went to Florida for rehab and was homeless before.

And when she asked me to move out because her parents were coming to visit and she didn't want them to meet me, and I just said ok, and I looked at places, found one, and put a deposit down, and I didn't tell her anything because she wouldn't even talk to me or look at me, when she found out two days before I left that I was indeed leaving, she all of a sudden acted interested in me and like she cared and had feelings again.

This stupid cvnt. She made me feel worthless. My confidence was shot. I was so unhappy and hurt, then she was telling me that I didn't have to leave because her mom had to take her dad to the hospital. When I said I'm leaving anyways she suggested I don't move so far, that there are apartments right around the corner from her. I thought this b1tch is out of her crack smoking mind.

Women like this deserve to be fvcking choke slammed. I have no remorse for anything I did, and honestly I was to knock her the fvck out. I don't give a fvck. She had a huge upper hand that whole relationship and she used it to torment me sometimes and then act like I'm bad.

B1tch i dont give a fvck what you did for me, or how much money you invested because when you start disrespecting me, and throwing up a wall for no reason, gaslighting me, then fvck you. I now am justified in not respecting your feelings or property, and Taking advantage of the whole situation.

You think you can be mean and spiteful? I'll fvcking show you the meaning of cruel, you illiterate hood rat.

She never really withheld sex from me though. When she was being emotionally cruel I didn't even want to fvck her, I would just not even try. She push and pulled me hard, sometimes I did it too.

Fvck that b1tch. My only mistake was not working on myself and dating other women to soften the blow of the break up. I should have cheated on her tbh. Women who are sneaky, and try to manipulate you emotionally because you allow yourself to get attached deserve to be treated like sh1t and used. NEVER feel guilty because i promise you, if she ever acts b1tch she is doing something sneaky even if not cheating.

Treat these women however you feel like and don't show any remorse. Assume she did you or is doing you wrong. That b1tch is lucky I don't want to get locked up. Real lucky.

Most women in this post modern DECAYING society where feminism is the norm and accepted by society, are trash human beings.
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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