The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[QuadDeuces]

Ok so got the news I'd secretly been pining for.

My ex gf's ex housemate confirmed there have definitely been odd looking characters she's brought back since we split, his words not mine. He said she has no standards and I'm much better off.

I feel good knowing, liberating, not sad at all, more feelings of closure than anything.

He also confirmed she's quite a depressing, moany, negative person (true) and that I'm completely different as a person as I'm quite upbeat, life and soul kinda guy.

I knew all this anyway. I'm closing the chapter on this one. Abi, you're a c*nt

If you keep hating her you will never close the chapter.
Thank her, Forgive her, forgive yourself, send her love and compassion (in your mind).
With peace you can let go.

 

[beatjunkie]

Day 2.

Break-up happened over 3 weeks ago but I chased and pleaded the whole time. This part saturday was the last time we talked. I haven't called yesterday and I pray to have the strength not to call today as well.

Break-up happened because she caught red-handed trying to get another girl's number in the club :/

 

[Die Hard]

Day 49

Had a very unnerving dream about her before waking up today... There was an incident between us where she was being a real cvnt and fvcked me over really hard, it really hit me emotionally (details don't matter).
After that incident, I had to bring her to the train station. We were walking side by side, towards the platform from where her train would leave.. There were two escalators next to each other, going down to the platform, As she stepped onto the one on the left, I quickly decided to take the one on the right. Didn't look at her all the way down and when I got downstairs I just walked to the right (while her platform was to the left). I just kept walking and didn't look back at her. She must've been standing there with a shocked look on her face hahaha, but I didn't allow myself to look back at her and just walked on.. Then I woke up...

Anyway, it's been 7 weeks since the breakup. Longest breakup we ever had was 6 weeks so I've passed a mental barrier, I guess.

Will still take quite some time before I've fully healed from this breakup but I'll get there, step by fvcking step...

 

[Paradiddle]

Since NC is about healing and moving on, it would be wise to stop counting the days since you guys broke up. Keeping such record will never let you heal, guys. Trust me. I had a break-up too and I know I am doing better than a lot of guys in this forum because I have actually had an in-depth understanding of the NC rule and have stopped counting the days since 'that' day. May the force be with you, my brethren.

 

[beatjunkie]

back to day 1. contacted her yesterday after getting back from work. a moment of weakness. it will not happen again.

 

[soulforge]

1 Year and 2 months NC

How do I feel... I don't give a rats ass about her lol


Hell I don't even remember her face...However in this loooong NC period, I learnt many things about myself.

I do NOT tolerate any kind of disrespect from Females anymore!

ONCE CHANCE... They fuk up? Immediately they are GONE

My last long term relationship was with a somewhat nasty, thoughtless selfish woman... However it was my OWN fault for keeping her around, even though she disrespected me quite seriously on several occasions..

I am a much stronger and wiser person now, and seriously guys, I give ZERO fuks about that woman anymore..

I kept with strict NC for 12 months.. Not even a fuking peep, even changed my mobile number..

I am seeing a MUCH nicer and kinder, caring woman now, who treats me like a KING

But.. I recognise a womans NATURE can never be fully trusted, no matter how NICE she is... Always keep your options open, and ready to bail if she fuks up!


Things will 100% get better for you guys.. Just keep going strong with NC and give her fuking NOTHING

Not a PEEP!!

 

[Murk]

NC: 3 months

Hearing my ex banging other guys made me relapse last week, mentally only, I felt low.

I have banged 6-7 girls since - caught an std, cured and regain the same std. dodged 2 LTRs and rekindled an old flame I genuinely love. All since jan 14th!

Get active and get out there!

 

[Spaz]

@Murkserious hang in there.

@soulforge great post !

 

[QuadDeuces]

My ex is reaching out more.
We had a mutual relatively drama free break up, but we went NC for 2 months anyway.

First she broke NC by sending me a happy birthday text 3 weeks ago.
Last saturday she sent me a few more friendly messages and we had a short text convo about nothing special really that spring is coming and that she still uses the gift I gave her.
No talks about how we've been though, I don't want to tell her things that would hurt her, nor do I want to hear stories from her.

 

[Murk]

@QuadDeuces prob best to just cease contact it's the easiest way to move on for both of you

 

[DreamAgain]

1 Year and 2 months NC

How do I feel... I don't give a rats ass about her lol


Hell I don't even remember her face...However in this loooong NC period, I learnt many things about myself.

I do NOT tolerate any kind of disrespect from Females anymore!

ONCE CHANCE... They fuk up? Immediately they are GONE

My last long term relationship was with a somewhat nasty, thoughtless selfish woman... However it was my OWN fault for keeping her around, even though she disrespected me quite seriously on several occasions..

I am a much stronger and wiser person now, and seriously guys, I give ZERO fuks about that woman anymore..

I kept with strict NC for 12 months.. Not even a fuking peep, even changed my mobile number..

I am seeing a MUCH nicer and kinder, caring woman now, who treats me like a KING

But.. I recognise a womans NATURE can never be fully trusted, no matter how NICE she is... Always keep your options open, and ready to bail if she fuks up!


Things will 100% get better for you guys.. Just keep going strong with NC and give her fuking NOTHING

Not a PEEP!!

No contact done right, well done

 

[Murk]

My ex posted a breakup poem about me on twitter while on a flight 3 months after our breakup...

The general gist is my hurtful words are becoming a distant memory, I'm terrible, I messed with her head, she's great, she'll find someone who deserves her.

Go you sister.

I am removing twitter and instagram from my life.

 

[Paradiddle]

I am removing twitter and instagram from my life.

By that if you mean to say that you will delete your twitter and instagram accounts, then that's too kiddish if you ask me.

 

[Murk]

I just meant removing from my phone and not looking on my laptop.

I have only ever had twitter and instagram to browse - I have no content on my accounts.

 

[Paradiddle]

I just meant removing from my phone and not looking on my laptop.

I have only ever had twitter and instagram to browse - I have no content on my accounts.

I delete my ex from my facebook some days ago. I thought why would I give her the liberty to know what's going on in my private life. Today I was going through my past fb posts and saw her comment but her name was black in colour. Finding it strange, I talked to my friends at work and someone said that it happens when someone blocks you. The break-up was not that bad but because I deleted her on social media, I think I insulted her ego. Haha.

 

[Murk]

Blocking on everything is the best way to go. Get your zest for life back. It's taken me 3 months but now I feel really good and hopeful, with some drive to make myself a better person.

 

[Paradiddle]

Blocking on everything is the best way to go. Get your zest for life back. It's taken me 3 months but now I feel really good and hopeful, with some drive to make myself a better person.

My point, exactly.

 

[QuadDeuces]

You need to do some inner work why you still obsess about your ex for such a long time.

 

[MILLY1985]

Day 1 will update with back story and details In due time

 

[Murk]

Lifting and counting calories has probably been the best decision in 3 months of NC. My shoulders, biceps and legs have just been constantly aching, I look better in the mirror already. I feel like I have a purpose because she wants me to feel like sh!t and become nothing. I'm determined to become my best self as I turn 30 next year I need to be in the best place I can be mentally and physically.

I've also put plates on the back burner - I have't had sex in 9 days which is the longest I've gone since the split in Jan and I feel great.