The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[QuadDeuces]

Or don't get drunk, prove to yourself you have self control.

 

[QuadDeuces]

Day.... don't remember but guess around 18.
It get's easier and easier, but the mornings waking up alone are still pretty bad, depressed, lonely and anxious waking up an hour before alarm. Thought about texting her but of course I didn't. After a cup of coffee or 2 and 50 pushups all is well.

Cold nexted my 4/10 FB 2 days ago, she started drama and I ignored her, I was bored with her clingy bs anyway. Now back working on my Tinder matches, will go out tonight or tomorrow.

But the thing I wanted most is fvck the shat out of miss BPD. Gotta maintain control.

 

[BadBoy17]

Day 26

Last few days I have been acking for sexual satisfaction, I haven't masturbated since I broke up with my ex, I tried to hook up with 2 girls but found myself lacking the will to put in the effort to chase them and spend money on dates. Last night I went to a strip club, drink a few beers and talk with some of the strippers, found myself enjoying their company, they are very honest with what they want: money for sex, but still I didn't want to buy sex, the funny thing is that I ended up winning the "strip lottery" with the number the doorman gave me (was he the devil in disguise?), so the Madame told me that I could choose any girl I wanted for free, I wanted to choose a girl that looks the opposite from my ex but in the end I choose one whose very similar to her. Not gonna lie, I f#cked her in my ex favorite position and for a while I pretended she was her, and damn she smelled good. After that I realized that every woman is capable to give you the same satisfaction in bed as any other, what I'm missing is the companionship and the familiarity of a person you know, so I plan to pursue new woman but not fall in love with them because that sort of dependency it's retarded.

What do you think about what happened yesterday, was the devil's luck with me? did the "universe" wanted the to get free p#ssy? lol. What would you have done instead?

 

[MrAddiction]

Companionship from a trusted person that is what I do miss too. Today was one of those days. I was down in the morning. For good sake I had forgotten my cellular in the car. When I got it this afternoon. I saw my ClusteB X had again tried to contact me - After one week passed without her calling. She had called and send a mesage asking, ins everything were alright due to the fact that she can not reach me. Then this afternoon she called again on the cellphone and half an hour later my home phone number.
3 and a half month NC and damn hoovering is getting more intense.

 

[BadBoy17]

Companionship from a trusted person that is what I do miss too. Today was one of those days. I was down in the morning. For good sake I had forgotten my cellular in the car. When I got it this afternoon. I saw my ClusteB X had again tried to contact me - After one week passed without her calling. She had called and send a mesage asking, ins everything were alright due to the fact that she can not reach me. Then this afternoon she called again on the cellphone and half an hour later my home phone number.
3 and a half month NC and damn hoovering is getting more intense.

She's desperate for the validation that she didn't do anything wrong by ****ing you up, if you give up and answer she will know she can get you back, then she will feel validated as your superior and put you in a really dark place, and I'm not talking about her vagina.

 

[MrAddiction]

and I'm not talking about her vagina

;-))
I even do not want to go there anymore even if I would get paid - not after knowing my replacement. She is a rotten fruit now.

 

[BadBoy17]

;-))
I even do not want to go there anymore even if I would get paid - not after knowing my replacement. She is a rotten fruit now.

Indeed, if something good came up from that ****ed up interaction you had at her place, it's that you can see her true colors; so my friend, pursue things that make you happy and stay strong.

 

[QuadDeuces]

Companionship from a trusted person that is what I do miss too. Today was one of those days. I was down in the morning. For good sake I had forgotten my cellular in the car. When I got it this afternoon. I saw my ClusteB X had again tried to contact me - After one week passed without her calling. She had called and send a mesage asking, ins everything were alright due to the fact that she can not reach me. Then this afternoon she called again on the cellphone and half an hour later my home phone number.
3 and a half month NC and damn hoovering is getting more intense.

Perfect man, you're now in full control, DONT ANSWER.
Let her sweat, she knows she's lost the upper hand now and the more she calls the more she damages her own narcisistic ego. Remember, she doesn't care about you, she is not calling to ask how you are doing, she is calling because she wants the upper hand back, to validate her ego.
Like a serial killer going back to the crime scene to get off at the damage they did.

 

[BadBoy17]

Perfect man, you're now in full control, DONT ANSWER.
Let her sweat, she knows she's lost the upper hand now and the more calls she makes the more she loses it. Remember, she doesn't care about you, she is not calling to ask how you are doing, she is calling because she wants the upper hand back, to validate her ego.
Like a serial killer going back to the crime scene to get off at the damage they did.

That's a good analogy, to this day it still baffles me, how can women act this way without remorse, do they seriously believe this is the normal way of things? if that's the case then there is no hope, this venomous teaching it's deeply entrenched in our current sociaety normatives.

 

[QuadDeuces]

That's a good analogy, to this day it still baffles me, how can women act this way without remorse, do they seriously believe this is the normal way of things? if that's the case then there is no hope, this venomous teaching it's deeply entrenched in our current sociaety normatives.

I believe MrAddictions ex is a BPDer, they have no remorse and no empathy, they will cheat on you and blame you for it.
They don't call to care how you are doing, after a break up when they first told you you weren't sh*t and btw had been f*cking other guys behind your back and it's all your fault.

 

[unsycu]

Day 7

I can't believe it's been a week and she hasn't reached out. It's like all the good memories we had mean nothing to her. And I know it's naive, but I can't get myself to believe there isn't a chance she's not completely over me. That she wasn't just trying to protect my feelings by giving me an unclear reason. That she doesn't think about me and wonder if she made a mistake.

I know I'm going to break NC at some point. Maybe not soon, but I can't fight this forever.

 

[MrAddiction]

I believe MrAddictions ex is a BPDer

That is what I think too. But due to the fact that I also found some classical NPD treads I tend to write Cluster B. That covers all behaviors and I Do not have nor want to figure out, what it is exactly.
Thanks guys for your good help!

 

[MrAddiction]

... And again.

An hour ago she called me from her workplace. Called my cell and immediately my home phone.
Then she send an SmS. That I should call back and that I must have seen all her calls.
Then she send an Email to all my four emailadresses she knows of. Text: "I can not reach you. Did you change your mail? Can't even reach you via phone. Would you please be so kind to call? That would he really nice, Hope you are doing well and everything is fine"

Due to the fact that she knows I have Health issues that can get really bad at any Time, maybe she really worries. But on the other hand why should I care? That did not stop her from ruining the relationship in the first place. Or does anybody on here think regarding the Health background it is to cruel to stay no contact?

It just gets on to my nerves with that fcuking hoovering.

 

[5chm1dd1]

... And again.

An hour ago she called me from her workplace. Called my cell and immediately my home phone.
Then she send an SmS. That I should call back and that I must have seen all her calls.
Then she send an Email to all my four emailadresses she knows of. Text: "I can not reach you. Did you change your mail? Can't even reach you via phone. Would you please be so kind to call? That would he really nice, Hope you are doing well and everything is fine"

Due to the fact that she knows I have Health issues that can get really bad at any Time, maybe she really worries. But on the other hand why should I care? That did not stop her from ruining the relationship in the first place. Or does anybody on here think regarding the Health background it is to cruel to stay no contact?

It just gets on to my nerves with that fcuking hoovering.

Damn, tough luck with that annoying b#tch.. I'd go crazy if I'd be bombarded with calls and mails like that.
Keep ignoring her, it's the only way to go.

I was in Wales this weekend for visiting an old friend (female, who I used to bang when she was still here) of mine who studies there. Had a fun night, and it was all going great, but Saturday when I woke up next to her I felt like a piece of sh1t for sleeping with her.

Damn, it's been pretty exactly 6 months since splitting, and 5 1/2 months of NC. When will this stop?

 

[MrAddiction]

... And again.

An hour ago she called me from her workplace. Called my cell and immediately my home phone.
Then she send an SmS. That I should call back and that I must have seen all her calls.
Then she send an Email to all my four emailadresses she knows of. Text: "I can not reach you. Did you change your mail? Can't even reach you via phone. Would you please be so kind to call? That would he really nice, Hope you are doing well and everything is fine"

Due to the fact that she knows I have Health issues that can get really bad at any Time, maybe she really worries. But on the other hand why should I care? That did not stop her from ruining the relationship in the first place. Or does anybody on here think regarding the Health background it is to cruel to stay no contact?

It just gets on to my nerves with that fcuking hoovering.

Show Must go on....
3 Hours later. She called my Cell again my home phone number.
...and than she contacted my cousin and told/wrote him that she is wondering why I do not answer nor contact her. Do not know what he answered yet. Will keep you updated.

I have mixed feelings of anger and finding it kinda funny. Non the less it's sad at all. Seems like the last proof of her being BPD.

 

[5chm1dd1]

Show Must go on....
3 Hours later. She called my Cell again my home phone number.
...and than she contacted my cousin and told/wrote him that she is wondering why I do not answer nor contact her. Do not know what he answered yet. Will keep you updated.

I have mixed feelings of anger and finding it kinda funny. Non the less it's sad at all. Seems like the last proof of her being BPD.

Obviously bpd, you can actually be really glad that she's not your problem anymore.

If the calls get out of hand, you can always block her number permanently from calling you, just have to talk to your provider.
I did that a few years back when a chick didn't get that I'm not interested.

 

[MrAddiction]

And me again....

Thanks to my Cousin she knows that my cellnumber is still on.
2calls to my cell and two to my home number around noon. One voicemail: It would be nice if I would call. By the way she cannot get it why I don't do. call me please, otherwise I will come around the next days. That was 1300.
After that I Blockes her at my homephone.
She called again at 1500.
Then an email: when can she come get the rest of her things
Between 1600 and 1700 for calls on my cell and tried ten times to call my home number. Then a textmessage saying the same like the email.

There is not much left of her things. Some pictures. One Wii game. Can't even guess what else she thinks off.
She moved out 1 year and 5month ago. We got back together with seperated flats. And the final breakup was 8month ago: and now she wants to come and get her stuff? Stuff that she did not need for about 16month.

Guys what am I suppose to do? She will definately show up here the next days. And will be angry as fcuk I guess.

 

[BadBoy17]

And me again....

Thanks to my Cousin she knows that my cellnumber is still on.
2calls to my cell and two to my home number around noon. One voicemail: It would be nice if I would call. By the way she cannot get it why I don't do. call me please, otherwise I will come around the next days. That was 1300.
After that I Blockes her at my homephone.
She called again at 1500.
Then an email: when can she come get the rest of her things
Between 1600 and 1700 for calls on my cell and tried ten times to call my home number. Then a textmessage saying the same like the email.

There is not much left of her things. Some pictures. One Wii game. Can't even guess what else she thinks off.
She moved out 1 year and 5month ago. We got back together with seperated flats. And the final breakup was 8month ago: and now she wants to come and get her stuff? Stuff that she did not need for about 16month.

Guys what am I suppose to do? She will definately show up here the next days. And will be angry as fcuk I guess.

Put all her **** in a box, if she shows up give it to her and leave as if you have a meeting or something. Or you can have a girl over and just act polite and dismiss her. If you don't want to see her, you can leave the box outside, but the first two options have more impact in my opinion.

 

[Roober]

And me again....

Thanks to my Cousin she knows that my cellnumber is still on.
2calls to my cell and two to my home number around noon. One voicemail: It would be nice if I would call. By the way she cannot get it why I don't do. call me please, otherwise I will come around the next days. That was 1300.
After that I Blockes her at my homephone.
She called again at 1500.
Then an email: when can she come get the rest of her things
Between 1600 and 1700 for calls on my cell and tried ten times to call my home number. Then a textmessage saying the same like the email.

There is not much left of her things. Some pictures. One Wii game. Can't even guess what else she thinks off.
She moved out 1 year and 5month ago. We got back together with seperated flats. And the final breakup was 8month ago: and now she wants to come and get her stuff? Stuff that she did not need for about 16month.

Guys what am I suppose to do? She will definately show up here the next days. And will be angry as fcuk I guess.

"your items are in a box on my porch. If you do not pick them up by tomorrow morning, I will throw it all in the trash. Thank you!"

Make it a day when you are not home. Make it matter of fact with clear communication. If she does not do this, this will happen. I would say give her at least 24-48 hours.

 

[QuadDeuces]

Transfer her 20 euros/dollars.