narcissist
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Just did it about 2-3 hours ago. It was hard for her, but ultimately it was the right decision.
So here is to day 1!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)
- Thread starter Daydream Engineer
- Start date
So here is to day 1!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
So my son tells me yesterday she contacted him sunday night thro text, being sweet telling him she sent a package for my dog and to not let me throw it away (i have a german shepherd i got when we first started dating so she loves her) anyways she told my son she misses all of us so much and even tho she isnt around if he needs anything lwt her know and to give his nana (my mom) a big hug.
Not sure if she is reaching out to me for attention or to be a ****kk as i refused her xmas presents to me weeks ago.
Either way i am not responding.
Im taking it as she is sufferring and reaching out for some response to me.
Good let her suffer.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
Day 2. Horrible sleep. Couldn't sleep at all. I didn't think it would hit me like that. She called me 20ish times last night. And sent me about 5-6 texts.
Deleted them all. Deleted all photos. Gave her all her stuff when I saw her.
Deleted them all. Deleted all photos. Gave her all her stuff when I saw her.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Stay strong
xstang77
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Rest assured it doesn't stop, mine showed up at my door after 3 months of ignoring her.
Mine has done that at least 3 times during past recycles. It's just not worth it to stay in contact.
Peace of mind is everything.
Roober
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LOL at least you guys got something. Mine dropped me and I haven't heard a peep. I imagine she is just a regular old heartbreaker...
Not sure if it is easier to get messages and ignore them knowing you have control or don't get anything and feel like you meant absolutely nothing to her...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I don't mean anything to her. Her contacting me is 100% self serving.
it is obviously easier to get a message that gives u the power to know she is hurting too, although only helpful at first, for you not hearing from her at all lets you get past her quicker instead of dragging it out.
my ex wife bpd reached out to me for 7 years off and on post divorce, texts, emails, calls, voicemails, crying, begging, friends messaging for her...i have NEVER responded once and it has all been matter of fact thinking, like a cold blooded killer because that ***** betrayed me, wanted to be married and be a family with me and my son and then 8 months later didnt do **** but bail.....never around, i packed her up and told her come get her **** and if her dad wanted to stop by and be a problem i would happily stomp him into the ground in front of her. he showed up and was an angel to me, her brother told me i should have kicked her out sooner......
point of the ranted story is you are LUCKY to be away from her, dont feel hurt she hasnt reached out, she is just a cold ***** and you are lucky......
how about my new ex, nc for 11 days as i broke things off after a month of her bipolar ass tyring to win me back, texted my teenage son Sunday night......haha....these bitches will go to extremes and have NO soul......Thank God there are good girls out there, if there werent none of us would know how bad some of these girls are to contrast them to...
good luck
xstang77
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Oh this was my bpd ex, I haven't heard a peep from the one I talked with you about. It does make you feel good that they reach out for a little while until you realize it's sad how fvcked in the head the bpd birds are, mine is boringly predictable just always know she won't do what she says or plans, only know it's actually happening until she's at my house bent over undressing while I grab her. Same crap talking about our engagement sharing fb memories with me and all this talk of our love to getting back with her most recent ex the next day. Same predictable boring crap which might get you layed once in a while if you dare to step back on the c0ck carousel.
Just dont get her pregnant. Your life would be ruined.
xstang77
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Oh no doubt, lucky for me she's unable to get pregnant due to confirmed health reasons, sucked getting over that one, the most recent one is a lot tougher though when you actually lose something of value and that actually treated you right.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Roober
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Thats just messed up... should probably block!
Carpathian
Senior Don Juan
^^^^^
Good for you. You should be GLAD she hasn't contacted you, believe me. Makes it MUCH easier for you. It hurts for a bit but you recover, dust yourself down and move on. When the b1atch starts texting you, telling you they miss you and all that sh1t it is THEN it gets difficult. Trust me 100% when I tell you if you ignore her she will contact you again and you will be tested.
Roober
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And ya know. Have gone out on several dates recently, and all of them want a second date, both a good problem (I'm a solid dude, her loss) and bad (I don't have time for them). I used to think my ex was rockin in the sack, but the woman I laid on Monday did almost the exact same things, but she could ride wayyyyyy better. Only other partner I had before my exgf in the last 10 years was my exwife, and that was no bueno. New experiences certainly put things into perspective...
Time will decide if she decides to reach out. Either way, the secks has helped increase that rift exponentially... I can't even really remember what she looks like.
To others out there, get off social media completely. That was holding me back a bit, and it is a complete waste of time.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.