Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Ignore her! The point of no contact is to work on yourself. When a woman says "I want to be single", one of two things happened. She doesn't want to be with you, or she has another guy lined up...
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
They always say that, and continue to text. See it as a sign that you have her perplexed and thinking of you and she is not used to it. She's used to you chasing her and you're having none of it. Good for you dude. I read your previous posts. Many of us - me included - have been too nice, too generous, too easy, too available, too willing to drop other things to be with her, thinking we were doing the right thing. We weren't, we were doing the WRONG thing. Women do not like these behaviors in a man. They see you as a pvssy and are repulsed by it.
It is not a game and do not think that it is. You are removing yourself from the situation of being with her. She dumped you or gave you the LJBF speech. Fvck that. Why should you be in contact with someone who chose to finish with you? Why should you want to carry on communicating with her? It is not a game at all.
That was it, i moved to another town soon after that and never contacted her again. She send few angry messages after a while and got one last msg from me : that it was over, im seeing someone else and she should also move on and never contact me again. So where am i now? Moved from a birthplace which was a small town to a capital city of my state. If i could get a sense of abundance somewhere, this is the place. Started working on myself again. If i didnt break my NO CONTACT, i would avoid all the drama (this is short version, i had another post with another problem which was linked to this ex) and i would be way ahead on my healing process and personal progress. But just because i thought she was "the one", she was different, i thought i would give her another chance. Everyone situation is different but, as you read/heard that before, second chances rarely work. So never be someones back up, realize your mistakes in relationship and move on. Good luck, stay strong and sorry for long post and bad english.
Good stuff Shane! Goes to show how you really have to change your life otherwise AFC is like a disease of complacency. How long between first and second LTR? Maybe you didn't work on yourself enough? I am beginning to think that working on ourselves takes much longer than a couple months. Maybe 1-2 years... or more...First of all, i want to thank all the guys on the forum, especially the ones who bothered to reply to some of my threads i started before. I still think i have much to learn so i don´t reply much on this forum because i think there are people who can give better advice. Anyway, i see lot of people having problems with no contact and messages they receive, after applying this rule, from their exes. Instead of advice, ill share my recent experience so maybe someone can find some similarities and react in different way than i did. First, i must mention how i found this site. Girl of 7 year LTR dumped me, i didnt see it coming, i was devastated, i begged. Then i found this site, went no contact and after approximately 2 months i really started feeling better and improving myself. And to mention, i never had any contact with her again ( this happened circa 5-6 years ago) . So from my personal experience this is the way to heal, the only way (as many on this site suggests). GO NO CONTACT AND NEVER LOOK BACK. After enjoying my single life, i ended up in another LTR of 3 yrs and this girl is everything i wished for. Submissive, nagging kept at minimum, financially independent, we moved in after 1.5 year and she stopped clubbing and all that stuff. I thought to myself, that´s it. This is wife material. But as i invested in relationship, i stopped investing in me. Stopped with gym, took some jobs that were really bad, also started isolating from others ( yeah, i ****ed up). Depression and phobias came into my life, to the point that i got agoraphobic. So i decided i should get some professional help. Was in hospital for 2 months. During that time, GF was there for me, but at the end of my staying at hospital, i could sense from our phone calls that something wasnt right. I really started working on my recovery and left hospital earlier than they suggested, but it was too late. When i got home, she was somehow distant and after a while, i got all the classic lines (need space, love you but don´t like you, LJBF). She moved out and i knew that was it ( i changed for worse and she couldnt stand that anymore so she found someone new, although she didnt want to admit, they never do). Again NO CONTACT. But this time it was harder, i was fresh out of battle with depression and i lost almost all of my friends during depression phase. I was in bed for days but somehow got myself up. Started saving money from summer job so i could move to another city. Started going out, socializing. After two months of NO CONTACT i got msg from her (still angry at you, you hurt my feelings, but i love you in some way). I was just starting to feel better so i continued NO CONTACT. After a while she started calling, and after a full week of calls i gave in (my ego got the best of me, BIG MISTAKE). We agreed to meet up and soon after, she started showing up at my work, crying, begging to take her back, telling me she was hurt during this 2 months and she wanted to call me all the time. I was telling her that im sure something else didnt work out and thats why she came back to me. She was denying it all the time. So i thought, ill use her as ****buddy till i move out of town (BIG MISTAKE no.2, it was to early). Feelings started to surface again and i started spending more and more time at her place. And then i found out that, during our break up, she was going out with someone else. I also got proof that he stayed at her place during night. Her explanation : she was so mad at me that she did it on purpose, she went with him to her place but didnt had anything with him, he even left her unused condom
... takes a lifetime. You never stop working on yourself. In appearance, skills, health, education, career, home, women.... Everything. To do otherwise is just settling. A woman should be an addition to your life that makes life sweeter, not the definition of your life.
You didn't need to send her that text dude. The content of what you said there was implicit in you previously being in NC. The NC gave you far more power than you think but you wobbled under the illusion of wanting to do something to get some control of the situation. What you did is like phoning someone to say "don't phone me any more". You should have said that when you first broke up or when she gave you the LJBF speech. She knows exactly what she is doing. If she wanted to be with you she would call you. So await that call (assuming you want to). It will almost certainly come but by then you may have moved on. Same happened to me.
Reminds me of the first 5 minutes of swingers...
it's true guys one day you wake up and something has changed...
They're all good qualities dude. Keep at it.
