The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Yorkex]

Now, i wanted to text him how i hate him now. But i know you guys will not let me.

Don't make decisions when emotional or after getting a blow job.
Think about why you are angry, lay back and let the anger flow through you , understand that you are human and these are normal , feel every ounce then watch it subside.

 

[Hopes4Hope]

Don't make decisions when emotional or after getting a blow job.
Think about why you are angry, lay back and let the anger flow through you , understand that you are human and these are normal , feel every ounce then watch it subside.

Right Yorkex!
Thanks for reminding me not to make decisions when angry.
I just went to the shower instead and cried angry while i clean myself.
Thought of making a revenge.
To lead him on again and leave him once he got hooked by the bait. It could be him or someone else.
it is just a plan. an evil plan

 

[Genos]

Some inspiration for everyone from shark's blog: http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2011/01/heartbroken/

Things will get better. Keep busy!

 

[Sardines]

Need Some Advice

I've been NC for close to 5months now, she ended things and then i found out from her friend that she was basically sleeping with me and another guy at the same time. We were only together for 4months.

anyway, i get a text from her today apologizing for what happened, she goes on to say she had always wanted to text me after the fact but had someone monitoring her phone (the other guy i am assuming).

What's the appropriate response here? I am leaning towards just ignoring the text.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

I've been NC for close to 5months now, she ended things and then i found out from her friend that she was basically sleeping with me and another guy at the same time. We were only together for 4months.

anyway, i get a text from her today apologizing for what happened, she goes on to say she had always wanted to text me after the fact but had someone monitoring her phone (the other guy i am assuming).

What's the appropriate response here? I am leaning towards just ignoring the text.

Of course, of course. God she wanted to so bad, she was so close, living day in and day out, yearning to reach out to you, but how? How??? The love of my life, so close, and yet so far. The agony of existence, condemned to a life without my Sardines...

More tersely put, she's full of sh1t. Keep feeding her silence - that's all she deserves.

 

[GS750]

I'm at 70+ days no contact. Honestly I lost count but I'm feeling alright. What bugs the sh*t out of me is that I let her string me along after the breakup for a few months with pointless texts. Classic hot/cold behavior. She didn't want to be with me but didn't want to lose me completely. So selfish but not uncommon. Not to mention kind of disrespectful to the new dude she was dating. Looking back, what I should have done is just agreed with it and walked. It took me some time to see what she was doing before I went complete no contact and blocked her number. I'd be a lot further along than I am now. But NC has been empowering in a sense. Because I know for a fact that she's tried to be in contact with me a few times, but has gotten nothing but silence in return. Silence speaks volumes.

 

[zorg198]

Of course, of course. God she wanted to so bad, she was so close, living day in and day out, yearning to reach out to you, but how? How??? The love of my life, so close, and yet so far. The agony of existence, condemned to a life without my Sardines...

More tersely put, she's full of sh1t. Keep feeding her silence - that's all she deserves.

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

 

[mikey2012]

I'm at 70+ days no contact. Honestly I lost count but I'm feeling alright. What bugs the sh*t out of me is that I let her string me along after the breakup for a few months with pointless texts. Classic hot/cold behavior. She didn't want to be with me but didn't want to lose me completely. So selfish but not uncommon. Not to mention kind of disrespectful to the new dude she was dating. Looking back, what I should have done is just agreed with it and walked. It took me some time to see what she was doing before I went complete no contact and blocked her number. I'd be a lot further along than I am now. But NC has been empowering in a sense. Because I know for a fact that she's tried to be in contact with me a few times, but has gotten nothing but silence in return. Silence speaks volumes.

Did she say merry xmas?

 

[zorg198]

I'm starting my 5 week of NC.

To tell the truth i keep thinking about her but i know that i have no choice but to continue ahead and improve myself. sometimes i miss her i won't lie. i keep asking myself why i'm missing a person who treated me like garbage? why i keep picturing her face? freaking me out!! since the NC no effort from her to communicate... so its better. i see her brother in law from my old job but i keep avoiding him because i know he will start talking to me and i don't want that. i set myself a lot of things to accomplish since the NC and also for the new year. but something is missing and i don't know how to fill that void.

Joe.

 

[mikey2012]

I'm starting my 5 week of NC.

To tell the truth i keep thinking about her but i know that i have no choice but to continue ahead and improve myself. sometimes i miss her i won't lie. i keep asking myself why i'm missing a person who treated me like garbage? why i keep picturing her face? freaking me out!! since the NC no effort from her to communicate... so its better. i see her brother in law from my old job but i keep avoiding him because i know he will start talking to me and i don't want that. i set myself a lot of things to accomplish since the NC and also for the new year. but something is missing and i don't know how to fill that void.

Joe.

Coz u miss the biatch but she don't miss you and she don't care coz she probably sucking some big black guy covck . You must rise from your betadom and cuckoldem and face the challenge

 

[zorg198]

Coz u miss the biatch but she don't miss you and she don't care coz she probably sucking some big black guy covck . You must rise from your betadom and cuckoldem and face the challenge

Yeah, i'm aware but why should i care or miss this b1tch.

I have a strong will- no way in hell i am going to cut NC and contact her .

As GS wrote , silence speak in volume.


Joe.

 

[Yorkex]

NC Update

This past week my family came to town to visit and for some odd reason my mom still talks to my ex. Anyways last night we are watching a movie and she knocks on the door randomly , as soon as she comes in the living room I grabbed my car keys and went for a drive because I was shocked. I came back 40 mins later and went straight for a shower then dressed up and came back to sit down. I never said anything to her and didn't even look at her.

She came to tell my parents that her dad is at stage 3 of his cancer, last night I felt ****ty after hearing that and right now confused ...
My mom said she is planning for our family to visit during the week , question is should I break the NC with her then in light of her father's illness or just keep it going. I planned to talk to everyone at her house like I normally did but keep ignoring her but I'm having second thoughts now ..
Woke up today and one of her best friends liked my Facebook picture and a positive status I put up on the 27 ...this was at 5:40 am mind you.

Side Info
• same girl that went into a relationship a month after a 3 year relationship
• the sickness part could be true because he was at stage one when we ended things
• Last night my uncle told me he believes after the relationship she was stressed and yearned for emotional support that's why she went into a new relationship that quick

Any thoughts ?

 

[zorg198]

With all respect to her dad condition you and her are not together anymore, because of that its none of your business. from my point of view keep NC. ignore her. she just see validation from you . once it will be over , you will be over .

Joe.

 

[sylvester the cat]

after 1 year and 10 months NC my oneitis approaches me at a xmas party to 'clear the air'. as i have already moved on i tell her there is nothing to clear as i have no problem. end of one particular story that brought me to this site.

 

[GS750]

Did she say merry xmas?

I don't know Mike, I blocked her number so if she calls or texts they don't go through. The blocking feature isn't 100% effective though, sometimes pictures will go through.

 

[GS750]

Grass is not always greener on the other side(not getting the maintenance AWing texts), I sort of enjoyed seeing what cheating h0rs these women were when they would start sexting me after already getting a new bf...also the cvnty butthurt comments they make...they give you the rope to hang them with emotionally and intellectually. A useful tool for those of us that have a damned difficult time making a decision and sticking to it.

Haha true. I just found it very attention wh0r-ish to be texting your ex when you're 3,4,5 months into a new relationship. Grass isn't greener over there? Attention? Who knows why she did it. I got tired of the "maintenance texts" and blocked altogether.

 

[zorg198]

I Did the mistake of keeping her stupid number under another horrible name i gave her , i didn't delete it . yesterday i went over my Whatsapp to send another person a text , i saw her profile picture. H0lly sh1t. she changed her face completely. i mean completely. she looks whole different than she looked like. also , she's must be aware i blocked her on Facebook so what'sapp is the only way she can communicate with me. she post it there... i was shocked. what the hell? 5 weeks and keep going

 

[helmut2014]

Day 1

Started NC today. It is hard because I still want her back.

 

[clicheusername20]

Been NC for 8 days now, feeling pretty good. I'm gonna be staying in my college town tonight since I'm traveling through there. It'll be completely dead, but she lives there, so I'm fighting the urge to text her. Probably not a good idea...

 

[beyondunplugged]

GUYS - Please understand that "No Contact" is not some tactic to get her back. It means you are MOVING ON. You need to completely sever any memory you have of this person. Do not use No Contact thinking you will get her back because you will NEVER get her back. If she does come back and you willingly reenter the relationship, the DAMAGE IS DONE. Trust me. Move the hell on and learn not to tolerate ANYTHING. If you are not benefiting IMMENSELY from any person, woman or otherwise, KICK THEM TO THE CURB. As each minute passes where this person is allowing you to feel this pain and forcing you to go No Contact they have already brought far more negative into your life than positive. Think about that. How do you feel right now? That's a result of HER influence. How is that positive? That you have to feel so much pain? That's not worth it. You aren't benefiting at all.