The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[zorg198]

Starting my 4 weeks of NC- keep thinking about her smile , keep thinking about her.
But!- i won't fail and contact her , no way in hell. after what she's done to me and they way she treated me i will not give her the pleasure of hearing me.

Since the NC - kept working out , gained weight and the muscles started to show, reading the book of pook , started to look for apartment's , maybe i found one because this apartment that i'm living now keep reminding me this b!tch. i am changing not from the outside but from the inside. i know i shouldn't think about this but i wish she could see all the changes I've mad and the new person i am now. but i don't have any way to do that.

its been 4 weeks , my feelings about her lost . but the thinking of her still there....


Joe.

 

[Noyou]

Starting my 4 weeks of NC- keep thinking about her smile , keep thinking about her.
But!- i won't fail and contact her , no way in hell. after what she's done to me and they way she treated me i will not give her the pleasure of hearing me.

Since the NC - kept working out , gained weight and the muscles started to show, reading the book of pook , started to look for apartment's , maybe i found one because this apartment that i'm living now keep reminding me this b!tch. i am changing not from the outside but from the inside. i know i shouldn't think about this but i wish she could see all the changes I've mad and the new person i am now. but i don't have any way to do that.

its been 4 weeks , my feelings about her lost . but the thinking of her still there....


Joe.

From experience, you are not ready. Go NC for you, to forget about her, and not even think about her. You need to find yourself and be numb to her advances if she does such, because then you then can handle it the way you need to.

 

[zrammbo]

I've been NC from my ex for about 4-5 weeks now. I've been feel down about it at times but I think it's getting better. I just wonder if I should stay NC forever.

I was homeless last year and started going out with more girls and I had met her on Tagged. She was a past escort but she offered to pay for the food so we started dating. I messed up and kept going to jail and now she doesn't want anything to do with me, she says stuff like she doesn't want to talk to me because it's hard enough trying to get over me already and I don't know what to think about that.

 

[expos]

Lots of terrible stories here. All I can say is that when a woman is done, they are truly done. It's not a matter of choice sometimes, it's just the way they have been conditioned over time. Women will go to drastic lengths to survive and get what they need, which is why a lot of them rebound so fast. When they lose you, they seek to attain what they've lost quickly. It's not a want, but a need. Some of you should not take it personally. With women, I equate it to being kicked out of your home. Eventually, you'll need SOMEWHERE to live, and that's why women are so quick to take the next deal offered to them.

This is also where a lot of you guys need to swallow the red pill and realize that woman can shut off their emotions at a moments notice. Much like we lose the attraction to a woman when she gets ugly, fat, etc, women are just as quick to shut down when their needs are not met emotionally or you no longer give her the tingles.

I'm not siding with women here, but it's only fair to describe the thought process behind the event of when a woman loses her commitment, attraction, and desire for you. They are a completely different species.

I'm so glad that a lot of you post here. This forum will kick you some awesome knowledge and a good dosage of truth. I urge you everyone to continue to post their feelings, pain, beta thoughts, etc. It's better to do it here then to make these mistakes on woman and suffer for it.

 

[Noyou]

I think the main issue is this for almost 80% of us here:

We were all in a LTR with a woman, they got tired for whatever reason and dumped you and the reason why we were beta once is:

1. You have no women for a backup
2. She was your life
3. You were in love
4. You have no clear goals or career set in stone
5. You have no hobbies
6. You have no women to spin plates/have sex with

I found out at the end of my LTR that I possessed problems 1,2,3 and 6, so I was beta as **** and did the beg/plead **** for about a month when she CLEARLY was wanting to cheat on me.

Everyone, by hanging on to a fickle person, you are utterly wasting your time. STAY NC. Unless they are breaking down your door, calling/texting you 239084230984 times, or LEGITIMATELY reaching out, ignore all attempts. You tried to make it work with a selfish, damaged individual. There are plenty of other people out there who will accept you for you and never make you feel or change you.

I stayed NC and guess what? Career is booming, making money, getting big and cut, and women flock to me. I tell you the women

My ex was a curvy girl with a big chest and I thought, man I won't find anything like that again...

WRONG! Come to find out, there are alot of curvy women of all shapes and sizes. Went to a bar up here near where I live, met this 35 year old, just got divorced and was lonely and she was digging the way I look. To this day we are still FWB, and she is BANGIN', a real freak in the sack, and I love it.

I was missing out on FWB sex with a mega hottie, when I was wasting my time on some cow who didn't deserve me.

Also that is sound advice, YOU HAVE TO BE ABLE TO WALK AWAY! NOT GIVE A DAMN! WHEN YOU VANISH FROM THEIR LIFE, YOU CLEAR YOUR MIND AND GET YOUR **** TOGETHER.

Maybe the ex will meet you down the road and reconcile with you, maybe she'll find some downgrade and marry him and be miserable, maybe she will be happy.

The bottom line is, be GRATEFUL you found this out now and not when things really are serious when other lives are involved like kids, because then your life would be absolute hell.

You dodged a bullet. Consider yourself lucky.

 

[GS750]

Great post Noyou. Repped ya

 

[zorg198]

From experience, you are not ready. Go NC for you, to forget about her, and not even think about her. You need to find yourself and be numb to her advances if she does such, because then you then can handle it the way you need to.

No advances what's so ever... that's weird.

 

[zorg198]

I think the main issue is this for almost 80% of us here:

We were all in a LTR with a woman, they got tired for whatever reason and dumped you and the reason why we were beta once is:

1. You have no women for a backup
2. She was your life
3. You were in love
4. You have no clear goals or career set in stone
5. You have no hobbies
6. You have no women to spin plates/have sex with

I found out at the end of my LTR that I possessed problems 1,2,3 and 6, so I was beta as **** and did the beg/plead **** for about a month when she CLEARLY was wanting to cheat on me.

Everyone, by hanging on to a fickle person, you are utterly wasting your time. STAY NC. Unless they are breaking down your door, calling/texting you 239084230984 times, or LEGITIMATELY reaching out, ignore all attempts. You tried to make it work with a selfish, damaged individual. There are plenty of other people out there who will accept you for you and never make you feel or change you.

I stayed NC and guess what? Career is booming, making money, getting big and cut, and women flock to me. I tell you the women

My ex was a curvy girl with a big chest and I thought, man I won't find anything like that again...

WRONG! Come to find out, there are alot of curvy women of all shapes and sizes. Went to a bar up here near where I live, met this 35 year old, just got divorced and was lonely and she was digging the way I look. To this day we are still FWB, and she is BANGIN', a real freak in the sack, and I love it.

I was missing out on FWB sex with a mega hottie, when I was wasting my time on some cow who didn't deserve me.

Also that is sound advice, YOU HAVE TO BE ABLE TO WALK AWAY! NOT GIVE A DAMN! WHEN YOU VANISH FROM THEIR LIFE, YOU CLEAR YOUR MIND AND GET YOUR **** TOGETHER.

Maybe the ex will meet you down the road and reconcile with you, maybe she'll find some downgrade and marry him and be miserable, maybe she will be happy.

The bottom line is, be GRATEFUL you found this out now and not when things really are serious when other lives are involved like kids, because then your life would be absolute hell.

You dodged a bullet. Consider yourself lucky.

I agree with you ,same happened to me , i started blooming. so why the missing her still there ... freak me out. its been a month!!

 

[Noyou]

No advances what's so ever... that's weird.

Because they:

1. Had someone in wait
2. Cheating on you with someone already
3. Enjoying the new found "attention"
4. Never really loved you

There are the rare cases they want to be single, but that's just to ***** around.

 

[zorg198]

Because they:

1. Had someone in wait
2. Cheating on you with someone already
3. Enjoying the new found "attention"
4. Never really loved you

There are the rare cases they want to be single, but that's just to ***** around.

I will go with

1 and 4.

she told this to another dude, she dosent know i saw her writing this.

 

[Noyou]

I agree with you ,same happened to me , i started blooming. so why the missing her still there ... freak me out. its been a month!!

Because you still care about her. You need to get to the point where you don't care.

For example, what would happen if you saw her in public with another guy?would you feel bad?
Pine Over her?
Or would you ignore it?

You need to not care, because you KNOW what she is now. You should count your blessings and be done with her. It's hard, and most of us know this.

Like I said previous, the ex might be in the cards later, who knows, maybe another woman will knock your socks off but you won't know by not making yourself social.

Read my above example, my ex was a curvy, busty woman, but she couldn't last 15 mins in bed nor did she want to explore our sexuality, I'll go as far as say I had to FAKE things so that way I could end it so she'd be satisfied. She was insecure and played the role of the victim princess.

I go out, meet other women, I've met a couple that absolutely blew my mind.

You need to make yourself busy and get your mind off her because she isn't minding you at all. Also who knows on that one too, she might realize down the line she made a horrid mistake. But you cannot wait around for that moment. You treated her with love and respect, but maybe she doesn't want that, maybe she wants a guy who will treat her less. Odd, but true

 

[zorg198]

That's easy , i won't see her ever again.

She never said we are done , she just said i don't know , give me time... she wanted me to be second choice. i wrote her that i will not contact her again. so its been a month and i keep my promise. whatever ....

Joe.

 

[Yorkex]

That's easy , i won't see her ever again.

She never said we are done , she just said i don't know , give me time... she wanted me to be second choice. i wrote her that i will not contact her again. so its been a month and i keep my promise. whatever ....

Joe.

Similar story to mine.
We broke up and 3 weeks she started talking to another dude and going on dates after a 3 year relationship. Of course it hurts but she showed me her true feelings and colours. I went on Facebook and she was flaunting this new guy during the guys birthday. I didn't tell her nothing I just deleted her from every platform and limited contact with our mutual friends.

Now nobody knows what I'm up to , on days I'm not even busy I appear busy. Started talking to other women and now I'm focused on getting my life back. That should be your number 1 priority...because women & people in general come and go.
Suck it up if it hurts and plan to live better as a person.
She made a choice , if by any chance she tries to come back let her know she made a choice and you are happy for her. Don't keep the convos longer than 5 mins.

 

[mikey2012]

if you truly loved a girl. and i mean TRULY. you never get over them.

Im slowly realizing this

That is true. Also if she loved you she won't get over it

 

[mikey2012]

You can pretty much guess. Nothing bad. But..... lets just say that we are in contact again. and instantly all the olds feelings just filled my whole being. Its like the feelings were always following me. And uhm... yeah. aha

fvck


1.1 years of no contact - OFFICIALLY BROKEN

Tell us what happened . Did she contact you first?

 

[Darrenez]

No contact over xmas

OK with Christmas coming up, what's the betting we get a message from our ex. My ex finished with me and I reckon she is with someone else now. If she messages me , I'mgoing to be strong and just ignore her.
I'll feel like a duche not replying as she was an excellent girlfriend to me and like I said earlier it was probably my own fault that we finished. Am I definelty right to ignore her if she does indeed message me?

 

[Between_The_Lines]

OK with Christmas coming up, what's the betting we get a message from our ex. My ex finished with me and I reckon she is with someone else now. If she messages me , I'mgoing to be strong and just ignore her.
I'll feel like a duche not replying as she was an excellent girlfriend to me and like I said earlier it was probably my own fault that we finished. Am I definelty right to ignore her if she does indeed message me?

You have to be completely honest with yourself: are you holding onto even a single drop of hope that she will come back to you? If yes, then I'd suggest that anything that she sends your way be disregarded. Last thing you want is to get sucked into a web of "what ifs" and possible things to reply to her as it'll just prolong your healing and ultimately get you nowhere.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

OK with Christmas coming up, what's the betting we get a message from our ex. My ex finished with me and I reckon she is with someone else now. If she messages me , I'mgoing to be strong and just ignore her.
I'll feel like a duche not replying as she was an excellent girlfriend to me and like I said earlier it was probably my own fault that we finished. Am I definelty right to ignore her if she does indeed message me?

They sent it only to feel good about themselves, they dont give **** about you,harsh truth.

 

[expos]

OK with Christmas coming up, what's the betting we get a message from our ex. My ex finished with me and I reckon she is with someone else now. If she messages me , I'mgoing to be strong and just ignore her.
I'll feel like a duche not replying as she was an excellent girlfriend to me and like I said earlier it was probably my own fault that we finished. Am I definelty right to ignore her if she does indeed message me?

1. If she's with someone else that quickly, she doesn't care about you and probably never did. That's the way that some woman are. Red pill lesson No. 151 - Women are selfish.

2. Even if she did and she didn't have someone lined up, you are a temporarily placeholder until she finds someone likes. Look up branch swinging. The only reason she'd reach out is to make herself look great.

3. You are not to talk to this woman ever again. Get rid of her damn number. Read every thread by every experienced DJ here. You came here to get better, so you better learn what we are trying to teach you.

By never talking to her again it shows....

A. You don't give a sh!t about her.

B. That you have moved on to something better, which is your goal here.

C. That you hold the power again.

D. That you are on your path to healing.

 

[Darrenez]

1. If she's with someone else that quickly, she doesn't care about you and probably never did. That's the way that some woman are. Red pill lesson No. 151 - Women are selfish.

2. Even if she did and she didn't have someone lined up, you are a temporarily placeholder until she finds someone likes. Look up branch swinging. The only reason she'd reach out is to make herself look great.

3. You are not to talk to this woman ever again. Get rid of her damn number. Read every thread by every experienced DJ here. You came here to get better, so you better learn what we are trying to teach you.

By never talking to her again it shows....

A. You don't give a sh!t about her.

B. That you have moved on to something better, which is your g mmoal here.

C. That you hold the power again.

D. That you are on your path to healing.

Even though we spent 7 happy years together , I think we maybe just came to the end of our time. Although to be honest she did go on a date with him when we went on a break and I know she has been meeting up with him. Trust me I won't contact her at all at Xmas, I don't even have her number anymore. I didn't wish hera happy birthday and won't wish her a happy Xmas either.

Since we finished , I've taken the gym extra seriously and have put on quite a bit of muscle, moved out of my parents finally into my own flat and my facial hair has come back (suffered with alopecia on my beard area for the last 3 years).._so to be fair after she dumped me earlier this year many good things have happened to me which probably wouldn't have happened if we were still together.