narcissist
Master Don Juan
Welp it finally came.
Day f*ckin 60
I have not contacted my ex for 60 days.
There have been ups and there have been downs.
But I can tell you guys one thing,
I feel infinitely better than I did on day 1.
I have NO urge to contact my ex whatsoever. In fact I'm sure I don't even love her anymore.
Seeing as this is my big day of the no contact challenge I find it fitting to give some advice to you guys that helped me vastly and hopefully you guys can use my advice to get over your exes.
Advice #1 (most important): After you break up with your girlfriend it is absolutely CRUCIAL to be in a perpetual state of bettering yourself, every single day.
How this helped me: After I ended it with my ex I got back into working out hardcore 5-6 times a week, and I also started cramming down books like nothing, and studying majorly for my university courses. I went and bought new clothes, and started taking care of myself. This gave me a BASE CONFIDENCE and helped me realize that I'm better off alone in a perpetual state of bettering myself.
Advice #2 (This was the most challenging for me to comprehend, but i overcame it in the last 10 days of NC): DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT stalk her social media!!! THERE IS NOTHING ON THERE THAT WILL HELP YOU GET OVER HER. So either grab your balls and avoid her social media - if you have the will power. OR delete all of her social media all together (which is what i did).
How this helped me: For me this one was hard to grasp. But by day 45 I started stalking twice a day which was extremely unhealthy and made me think about her way to much. Thankfully I haven't been on her social media AT ALL in the past 9-10 days and honestly I cannot explain how the avoidance of her social media has helped me get over her. THIS IS CRUCIAL.
Advice #3: Last but not least. SPIN PLATES. Get another girl in your life. Not for dating, but for her pvssy.
How this helped me: Over the 60 days I've slept with 2 other girls and talked to probably 10 different girls who were interested in me. Keep in mind that I was out of the game for nearly 2 years prior to this, so I think this is great progress in my game, and it can only get better. Right now I'm talking to this girl who is making me forget ALL about my ex. We have fun, go on dates, all that good sh!t. (haven't fvcked yet, but will soon.) But spinning plates has helped me forget my ex by distracting me and helps me realize there are other girls just as good or even better then my ex.
CONCLUDING STATEMENTS ON NO CONTACT CHALLENGE:
Getting over an ex can be difficult and can be a horrible experience sometimes there is no doubt about that. So far in my experience, I have found that NO CONTACT is definitely the way to go. This challenge truly opened up my eyes to many things. Mainly, that grabbing your balls and eradicating your ex out of your life for good once they either breakup with you or they fvck up is BY FAR the best way to handle things. It saves you much heartache or at least minimizes it completely and helps you get back on your feet without having the ex keep staining your life, also makes you look like a boss (but you shouldnt care how you look to your ex lol).
Anyways I feel fantastic, and this past week has been exponentially healing. There was even a day or two when I didn't even think about her once. And when I do think about her its with the utmost ecstasy that I DO NOT have to deal with her again.
I will come back every 30 days to this thread and update until I reach 180 days then I will be done documenting my journey. I will remain no contact forever though.
I wish you all the luck on your endeavours fellow dj's and please for your own good do not contact your exes it does no good, and follow my advice!!!
Much love. And I thank all of you for your help!
Day f*ckin 60
I have not contacted my ex for 60 days.
There have been ups and there have been downs.
But I can tell you guys one thing,
I feel infinitely better than I did on day 1.
I have NO urge to contact my ex whatsoever. In fact I'm sure I don't even love her anymore.
Seeing as this is my big day of the no contact challenge I find it fitting to give some advice to you guys that helped me vastly and hopefully you guys can use my advice to get over your exes.
Advice #1 (most important): After you break up with your girlfriend it is absolutely CRUCIAL to be in a perpetual state of bettering yourself, every single day.
How this helped me: After I ended it with my ex I got back into working out hardcore 5-6 times a week, and I also started cramming down books like nothing, and studying majorly for my university courses. I went and bought new clothes, and started taking care of myself. This gave me a BASE CONFIDENCE and helped me realize that I'm better off alone in a perpetual state of bettering myself.
Advice #2 (This was the most challenging for me to comprehend, but i overcame it in the last 10 days of NC): DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT stalk her social media!!! THERE IS NOTHING ON THERE THAT WILL HELP YOU GET OVER HER. So either grab your balls and avoid her social media - if you have the will power. OR delete all of her social media all together (which is what i did).
How this helped me: For me this one was hard to grasp. But by day 45 I started stalking twice a day which was extremely unhealthy and made me think about her way to much. Thankfully I haven't been on her social media AT ALL in the past 9-10 days and honestly I cannot explain how the avoidance of her social media has helped me get over her. THIS IS CRUCIAL.
Advice #3: Last but not least. SPIN PLATES. Get another girl in your life. Not for dating, but for her pvssy.
How this helped me: Over the 60 days I've slept with 2 other girls and talked to probably 10 different girls who were interested in me. Keep in mind that I was out of the game for nearly 2 years prior to this, so I think this is great progress in my game, and it can only get better. Right now I'm talking to this girl who is making me forget ALL about my ex. We have fun, go on dates, all that good sh!t. (haven't fvcked yet, but will soon.) But spinning plates has helped me forget my ex by distracting me and helps me realize there are other girls just as good or even better then my ex.
CONCLUDING STATEMENTS ON NO CONTACT CHALLENGE:
Getting over an ex can be difficult and can be a horrible experience sometimes there is no doubt about that. So far in my experience, I have found that NO CONTACT is definitely the way to go. This challenge truly opened up my eyes to many things. Mainly, that grabbing your balls and eradicating your ex out of your life for good once they either breakup with you or they fvck up is BY FAR the best way to handle things. It saves you much heartache or at least minimizes it completely and helps you get back on your feet without having the ex keep staining your life, also makes you look like a boss (but you shouldnt care how you look to your ex lol).
Anyways I feel fantastic, and this past week has been exponentially healing. There was even a day or two when I didn't even think about her once. And when I do think about her its with the utmost ecstasy that I DO NOT have to deal with her again.
I will come back every 30 days to this thread and update until I reach 180 days then I will be done documenting my journey. I will remain no contact forever though.
I wish you all the luck on your endeavours fellow dj's and please for your own good do not contact your exes it does no good, and follow my advice!!!
Much love. And I thank all of you for your help!