"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Are you going to meet up? I think if I were in your shoes I'd not go. Six weeks is a good recovery period that could all be undone just to placate her ego. My advice, ignore or politely decline saying you've moved on. Then draw a line under her.DonJuanit0 said:
Her loss, I'm fvcking great and the best thing to ever to happen to her.
Today I really missed her, i think its the fact that it's saturday night and i know she is out with her friends, having fun while I'm here thinking of her.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I am on day 2 of NC with her. I have deleted her number from my phone and I am too week to delete the text messages.
I am a broken man writing this and if I had known I would never of gotten intimate with her, because she was a fun person to chat to and have a drink with.
I slept with another woman since then a more beautiful woman and I just remember her.
Today I wanted to call her and pled with her. A friend said to take flowers to her door?
I also cant delete her facebook profile.
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
I guess it's too late... I see your point but I just couldn't! We met up, she said she was sorry, we had a convo were we both made our problems clear to each other! We now fack a lot and we don't rush things! It's good for now! Hope it lasts this time... I'll propably find out if NC is good only for forgeting and getting the upper hand or it can help getting back together with more power in my hands and work better this time, at least for me!Skalioppe said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
she was making excusess to see me for 1 week and eventually when she finally spoke to me she said she feels different about me....I asked for second chance and she said her feelings have changed and to move on.headFirst said:
so I initiated NC to forget about her, however I still feel for her
another text recieved
john1234 said:
Ah okay, yea she seems like she's just gonna keep you frusterated if you keep the contact. You obviously are not her priority, and shes probably seeing someone else who is playing the same games with her. She might just be using you to pass time until the other one shows more interest.
well, I screwed up.
I responded to the texts and she calls and we talk for a while and I don't know if she really has feelings for me and wants to meet up again or if she is playing me again for her personal reasons.
What do I do now? I am weak, I know
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Giver her an ultimatum. Tell her you can't just be friends because you have the feelings for her, so it's best you guys don't talk so you can move on. Unless she is interested in giving you another shot, it's not worth putting yourself through the headache and it will prolong moving on.john1234 said:
I'm sorry to say this man, but you're her puppy, her crutch, her ego boost, she's keep using you as she carries on looking for Mr Right.john1234 said:
NC is about sorting yourself out, it's fvcking hard but it isn't something you switch on and off, you need to do it until you aren't obsessing about her. You're your own worst enemy at the moment, weak, emasculated, you've become her b1tch. She's loving the fact she can break you just like *that*, what do you think that says to her? Weak.... devalued, puppet, who doesn't mean what he says. Women including your ex like strong men, right now, you're the opposite and it WON'T attract her back.
Suddenly I feel over the ex - which makes me think I wasn't heartbroken about her - simply bruised male ego!
Moral of the story: Get out there, find some one better and be happy again!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.