"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)
- Thread starter Daydream Engineer
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Are you going to meet up? I think if I were in your shoes I'd not go. Six weeks is a good recovery period that could all be undone just to placate her ego. My advice, ignore or politely decline saying you've moved on. Then draw a line under her.DonJuanit0 said:
Her loss, I'm fvcking great and the best thing to ever to happen to her.
Today I really missed her, i think its the fact that it's saturday night and i know she is out with her friends, having fun while I'm here thinking of her.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I am on day 2 of NC with her. I have deleted her number from my phone and I am too week to delete the text messages.
I am a broken man writing this and if I had known I would never of gotten intimate with her, because she was a fun person to chat to and have a drink with.
I slept with another woman since then a more beautiful woman and I just remember her.
Today I wanted to call her and pled with her. A friend said to take flowers to her door?
I also cant delete her facebook profile.
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
I guess it's too late... I see your point but I just couldn't! We met up, she said she was sorry, we had a convo were we both made our problems clear to each other! We now fack a lot and we don't rush things! It's good for now! Hope it lasts this time... I'll propably find out if NC is good only for forgeting and getting the upper hand or it can help getting back together with more power in my hands and work better this time, at least for me!Skalioppe said:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
she was making excusess to see me for 1 week and eventually when she finally spoke to me she said she feels different about me....I asked for second chance and she said her feelings have changed and to move on.headFirst said:
so I initiated NC to forget about her, however I still feel for her
another text recieved
john1234 said:
Ah okay, yea she seems like she's just gonna keep you frusterated if you keep the contact. You obviously are not her priority, and shes probably seeing someone else who is playing the same games with her. She might just be using you to pass time until the other one shows more interest.
well, I screwed up.
I responded to the texts and she calls and we talk for a while and I don't know if she really has feelings for me and wants to meet up again or if she is playing me again for her personal reasons.
What do I do now? I am weak, I know
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Giver her an ultimatum. Tell her you can't just be friends because you have the feelings for her, so it's best you guys don't talk so you can move on. Unless she is interested in giving you another shot, it's not worth putting yourself through the headache and it will prolong moving on.john1234 said:
I'm sorry to say this man, but you're her puppy, her crutch, her ego boost, she's keep using you as she carries on looking for Mr Right.john1234 said:
NC is about sorting yourself out, it's fvcking hard but it isn't something you switch on and off, you need to do it until you aren't obsessing about her. You're your own worst enemy at the moment, weak, emasculated, you've become her b1tch. She's loving the fact she can break you just like *that*, what do you think that says to her? Weak.... devalued, puppet, who doesn't mean what he says. Women including your ex like strong men, right now, you're the opposite and it WON'T attract her back.
Suddenly I feel over the ex - which makes me think I wasn't heartbroken about her - simply bruised male ego!
Moral of the story: Get out there, find some one better and be happy again!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.