Absolutely right!So weird but Im feeling great. Spinning plates is a sure fire way to get over a break up.
Just keep on keepin' on. I've been in a crap headspace since Monday morning, no single concrete reason I can point to. Just a bunch of little setbacks, headwinds, all on top of some additional life responsibilities that will get better in a couple of weeks but in the meantime it's a slog.Today sucked fcking d1ck.
Missed school, got flaked on last minute, kind of ruined the plate by basically telling her to stop messaging me and wasting my time, and broke nofap.
Feel like sh1t.
Keeping the stuff can be a way to have a hook on you. On the contrary if she's really eager to drop the stuff she's really done done with you. Just as a general observation. But maybe she's just busy and will do it next week. Or if you commanded her to drop it off this week she's trying to demonstrate power by doing it when she feels for it.My ex girlfriend was supposed to pick up her sh!t this week and drop off my sh!t, but she hasn't. It's slightly annoying because I want to cut all ties and all potential contact with her, so that I know for sure I won't be bumping into her. She is supposed to drop it off while I am not home and give it to my roommate but nothing has happened this week *rolls eyes*
Also I bumped into her friend at school yesterday. Actually it was a slightly odd situation. I was talking to my friend and her friend came up to me (I didn't even notice her) and she was acting really friendly to me (my friend even made a comment about it after she left). I played it off cool and was cordial and friendly. But she gave me a really tight hug when she left. I do feel as though she was gauging to see if I was affected by the break up or not so that she can relay that information back to my ex *double eye roll*
Oh well. I can't wait until I get my sh!t back and I know for a fact that she won't be coming to my house ever again.
Yeah, I did tell her that I wanted her to drop it off this week and to respect that, which she said she would, but she obviously didn't. Just another piece of evidence that this relationship is beyond repair. I am so glad to be out of it. Truly. Not just saying that to make myself feel or look better.Keeping the stuff can be a way to have a hook on you. On the contrary if she's really eager to drop the stuff she's really done done with you. Just as a general observation. But maybe she's just busy and will do it next week. Or if you commanded her to drop it off this week she's trying to demonstrate power by doing it when she feels for it.
Day 29Day 22
I just found this site after reading the rational male after a buddy turned me on to his website. Needless to say I was doing everything wrong In classic AFC fashion.
My ex broke up with me a month ago, but started texting me 8 hours later, and like a chump I answered her for 10 days. I even went to go get coffee with her the last day of contact, I felt like she was coming around. She even grabbed my hand when we were drying back to work and squeezed like she did when we were dating.
The next day she sent me a link to an article about vaping killing people. Now she is allergic to a lot of things, even a certain laundry soap that I was using.
I replied telling her that the day she told me about the laundry detergent that I started cutting back on the nicotine and had a plan on tapering it to zero and quitting, not just for her health; but because it annoyed the **** out of her. Haven’t heard a word from her since.
Such a classic opener, the past two breaks from NC that was almost exactly how she opened it. So you're not alone.Day 29
She texted me at 11:46 PM with “Hey. How are you doing?”
did not respond.
Such a classic opener, the past two breaks from NC that was almost exactly how she opened it. So you're not alone.
Does your ex know that you have a new gf?Such a classic opener, the past two breaks from NC that was almost exactly how she opened it. So you're not alone.
The time I wasn't ready to break NC it was helpful that it came in around 11pm when my GF and I had just settled into bed. So ignoring it was easy.
The most recent break came three months after that, at which point I was ok with texting for a little bit so I answered. That turned out to be a good thing, as I got some insight into the continuing train wreck that is her personal life, which tangibly reinforced that she did me a favor when she walked. That text session left things a little open, but a month later I've yet to hear back. Which is just fine.
Based on how the text conversation was going, I leaned more on being the receiving end of the information rather than divulging. In the course of the brief exchange she did ask whether there were "any new girls in the picture", but I opted to simply ignore the question and focus on other topics. She can read into that what she will.Does your ex know that you have a new gf?
Please follow up in this thread if you get something more in the future, just out of curiosity.