finickywake
Don Juan
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Day 9
I think I may be off the on the days. Anyways, I find myself ruminating about her in the afternoons. I actually feel fine at night, been sleeping alright, still hitting the gym. I'm glad I'm not losing sleep over this. However, in the afternoons it's like a depression sweeps over me.
Did I mention she was a BPD? Diagnosed. Classic case: childhood abuse, abandonment, self-harm, tantrums, etc...I don't even want to go into everything I'd experienced that was negative with her, but I have to remind myself that's who she is, not the idyllic creature I've projected.
What makes this difficult is that the last go-around I had with her, it was as if all her symptoms had ceased to exist - at least the extreme ones. I'm not sure what I'm trying to say, really. When I write this down, I seem to enter a logical state, however before my fingers hit the keys I'm feeling emotionally sideswiped.
This feels kind of like withdrawal from opioids. I know it will pass eventually. I'm not sure if I really miss her as much as I miss the ease of having someone.
I deleted the OKCupid account because I decided one week post-breakup is a little early for me to be hitting on every girl I see. Plus, I'd rather hone my interpersonal skills in person first.
I saw her last e-mail which said she wanted to talk about things like adults and discuss why things happened like they did, but that she wouldn't contact me again until I wanted to talk, and that she'd be there if I ever did. Don't really feel anything either way about it, despite part of me wishing she were reeling with emotions like she used to, begging for me back or something. But I was kind of a piece of **** to her towards the end as she revisited older behavioral patterns which I wouldn't put up with.
People on here probably think I've got issues being the one who ended it yet still coming onto this forum, but whatever I can't really think of a better place to get this out. Plus from what I've seen on others who have been with BPD's it can be ****ty getting out of the relationships.
To everyone else, congrats on staying NC - those of you who have.
I think I may be off the on the days. Anyways, I find myself ruminating about her in the afternoons. I actually feel fine at night, been sleeping alright, still hitting the gym. I'm glad I'm not losing sleep over this. However, in the afternoons it's like a depression sweeps over me.
Did I mention she was a BPD? Diagnosed. Classic case: childhood abuse, abandonment, self-harm, tantrums, etc...I don't even want to go into everything I'd experienced that was negative with her, but I have to remind myself that's who she is, not the idyllic creature I've projected.
What makes this difficult is that the last go-around I had with her, it was as if all her symptoms had ceased to exist - at least the extreme ones. I'm not sure what I'm trying to say, really. When I write this down, I seem to enter a logical state, however before my fingers hit the keys I'm feeling emotionally sideswiped.
This feels kind of like withdrawal from opioids. I know it will pass eventually. I'm not sure if I really miss her as much as I miss the ease of having someone.
I deleted the OKCupid account because I decided one week post-breakup is a little early for me to be hitting on every girl I see. Plus, I'd rather hone my interpersonal skills in person first.
I saw her last e-mail which said she wanted to talk about things like adults and discuss why things happened like they did, but that she wouldn't contact me again until I wanted to talk, and that she'd be there if I ever did. Don't really feel anything either way about it, despite part of me wishing she were reeling with emotions like she used to, begging for me back or something. But I was kind of a piece of **** to her towards the end as she revisited older behavioral patterns which I wouldn't put up with.
People on here probably think I've got issues being the one who ended it yet still coming onto this forum, but whatever I can't really think of a better place to get this out. Plus from what I've seen on others who have been with BPD's it can be ****ty getting out of the relationships.
To everyone else, congrats on staying NC - those of you who have.