"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The New Challenge: One Date Per Week.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I had a coffee date last night. It went pretty well although I'm not 100% of how much romantic interest she has in me.
Will have a longer date next time to suss it out.
I have another date with a different chick on Saturday
One thing I've learned is that dating multiple women is waaaaaaaay cool. If one chick is frustrating me I can just move on to my other options. I will keep it to 3 chicks maximum for now though.
Also, short coffee dates are cool. I used to avoid them but it's a great opportunity to get to know someone a little better and is a much smoother jump from meeting someone to going on a bigger/longer date
we had fun and she's really cool. kino was low as I don't think she's comfortable with it just yet. I'm pretty sure she's keen for me though. I just need another date or two to make things romantic / sexual.
any updates amoka my dude?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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