"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The New Black???

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I'm going to skip all the comments because frankly, it's probably gone way out there by now. My take is that gays shouldn't be saying they are the new blacks because it really tarnishes what happened or at least what was supposed to happen. Being black even today almost meant being treated as a stereotype. You weren't a human but a shadow or stock character in life. No one expected anything of you because you're black; you just dance, be stupid, and work for someone. Of course when you stepped out of line as whites or even some blacks saw it, you're a bane to society because you're not following the script. Now instead of being this dumb field hand or a superhuman criminal mastermind, you're a determined person trying to rewrite the rules of society. In other words a black person has found an identity and is pursuing something. So, if you're gay, why are you saying you fit into another archetype when you should be furthering your own identity? If you do, you have no idea what it means to be black because you're not even embracing exactly what you are by saying it. If you're gay, be gay for the world to see if that's what you want; but like being gay first instead of trying to be anything else.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Da Realist said:
I'm going to skip all the comments because frankly, it's probably gone way out there by now. My take is that gays shouldn't be saying they are the new blacks because it really tarnishes what happened or at least what was supposed to happen. Being black even today almost meant being treated as a stereotype. You weren't a human but a shadow or stock character in life. No one expected anything of you because you're black; you just dance, be stupid, and work for someone. Of course when you stepped out of line as whites or even some blacks saw it, you're a bane to society because you're not following the script. Now instead of being this dumb field hand or a superhuman criminal mastermind, you're a determined person trying to rewrite the rules of society. In other words a black person has found an identity and is pursuing something. So, if you're gay, why are you saying you fit into another archetype when you should be furthering your own identity? If you do, you have no idea what it means to be black because you're not even embracing exactly what you are by saying it. If you're gay, be gay for the world to see if that's what you want; but like being gay first instead of trying to be anything else.
read my comments right above yours for my reason why. Plus, they are NOT the new black. they are the new MINORITY group in need of help. Think all the way back....native americans, women rights, child labor rights, mental retardness rights(think I am sam...the movie), asian american rights in California, then african american rights, and now gay rights.

Of course each group has got a different degree of pain and attack of them. However, at the end of the day, the groups are still being discriminated against, and thats a big no no.
 

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Irs88 said:
read my comments right above yours for my reason why. Plus, they are NOT the new black. they are the new MINORITY group in need of help. Think all the way back....native americans, women rights, child labor rights, mental retardness rights(think I am sam...the movie), asian american rights in California, then african american rights, and now gay rights.

Of course each group has got a different degree of pain and attack of them. However, at the end of the day, the groups are still being discriminated against, and thats a big no no.
I never said they shouldn't have rights: I just think they should represent themselves as themselves.
 

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fertileTurtle,

Nephew (shaking head),

reread what I wrote. I didn't insult America. anyways this thread has gotten way too bloated for its own good. cheers

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America is racist now? You're a joke, son. Many countries are way less tolerant of other cultures than America. No my country is not perfect, but we have come a long way. Call a racist a racist, but don't go crapping on my great country. The white people in America have done a lot to make things right.

And what happens when a group claims they should get anything just because they are white? We have LA RAZA and NAACP. What about the NAAWP to make it fair? What would people think if someone said I voted for a candidate JUST BECAUSE he's white. Now look at Obama. He's a black president, it's a big deal. Double standard.

And no, I'm not against national appologies and the like for slavery, even though we didn't participate in it. And I do understand to a point that people have experienced racism and want to do something about it, but people need to be proactive and stop acting like they need to cry about every injustice ever done to them. That's just life. Race is only one small point of discrimination in America. There are many others, some much worse.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Gay people cannot join the US army. Black people and women can.
 
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