"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The New Black???

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I'm going to skip all the comments because frankly, it's probably gone way out there by now. My take is that gays shouldn't be saying they are the new blacks because it really tarnishes what happened or at least what was supposed to happen. Being black even today almost meant being treated as a stereotype. You weren't a human but a shadow or stock character in life. No one expected anything of you because you're black; you just dance, be stupid, and work for someone. Of course when you stepped out of line as whites or even some blacks saw it, you're a bane to society because you're not following the script. Now instead of being this dumb field hand or a superhuman criminal mastermind, you're a determined person trying to rewrite the rules of society. In other words a black person has found an identity and is pursuing something. So, if you're gay, why are you saying you fit into another archetype when you should be furthering your own identity? If you do, you have no idea what it means to be black because you're not even embracing exactly what you are by saying it. If you're gay, be gay for the world to see if that's what you want; but like being gay first instead of trying to be anything else.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Da Realist said:
I'm going to skip all the comments because frankly, it's probably gone way out there by now. My take is that gays shouldn't be saying they are the new blacks because it really tarnishes what happened or at least what was supposed to happen. Being black even today almost meant being treated as a stereotype. You weren't a human but a shadow or stock character in life. No one expected anything of you because you're black; you just dance, be stupid, and work for someone. Of course when you stepped out of line as whites or even some blacks saw it, you're a bane to society because you're not following the script. Now instead of being this dumb field hand or a superhuman criminal mastermind, you're a determined person trying to rewrite the rules of society. In other words a black person has found an identity and is pursuing something. So, if you're gay, why are you saying you fit into another archetype when you should be furthering your own identity? If you do, you have no idea what it means to be black because you're not even embracing exactly what you are by saying it. If you're gay, be gay for the world to see if that's what you want; but like being gay first instead of trying to be anything else.
read my comments right above yours for my reason why. Plus, they are NOT the new black. they are the new MINORITY group in need of help. Think all the way back....native americans, women rights, child labor rights, mental retardness rights(think I am sam...the movie), asian american rights in California, then african american rights, and now gay rights.

Of course each group has got a different degree of pain and attack of them. However, at the end of the day, the groups are still being discriminated against, and thats a big no no.
 

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Irs88 said:
read my comments right above yours for my reason why. Plus, they are NOT the new black. they are the new MINORITY group in need of help. Think all the way back....native americans, women rights, child labor rights, mental retardness rights(think I am sam...the movie), asian american rights in California, then african american rights, and now gay rights.

Of course each group has got a different degree of pain and attack of them. However, at the end of the day, the groups are still being discriminated against, and thats a big no no.
I never said they shouldn't have rights: I just think they should represent themselves as themselves.
 

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fertileTurtle,

Nephew (shaking head),

reread what I wrote. I didn't insult America. anyways this thread has gotten way too bloated for its own good. cheers

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America is racist now? You're a joke, son. Many countries are way less tolerant of other cultures than America. No my country is not perfect, but we have come a long way. Call a racist a racist, but don't go crapping on my great country. The white people in America have done a lot to make things right.

And what happens when a group claims they should get anything just because they are white? We have LA RAZA and NAACP. What about the NAAWP to make it fair? What would people think if someone said I voted for a candidate JUST BECAUSE he's white. Now look at Obama. He's a black president, it's a big deal. Double standard.

And no, I'm not against national appologies and the like for slavery, even though we didn't participate in it. And I do understand to a point that people have experienced racism and want to do something about it, but people need to be proactive and stop acting like they need to cry about every injustice ever done to them. That's just life. Race is only one small point of discrimination in America. There are many others, some much worse.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Gay people cannot join the US army. Black people and women can.
 
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