My Name is Nobody
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john paul said:Is that a joke or are you seriously asking her that?
Serious. What's the problem?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
john paul said:Is that a joke or are you seriously asking her that?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
My Name is Nobody said:Serious. What's the problem?
john paul said:Nothing.
Just a weird question i thought.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How about you?iqqi said:You dudes are so lame. FOR REALz.
No wonder you spend more time on sosuave instead of in yourbed.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
NiceNotaCougar said:Let's see... the general consensus is, if given the chance I should just have some fun with him with no further expectations. Could be worth a shot!
The other general consensus is that 40-somethings couldn't possibly look good without make-up and low club lighting. I think you guys aren't paying enough attention when you walk around in the world if you really believe this. But.... your perception is your reality and I'm not here to change it.
We are pretty picky here, all the adult entertainment on the internet doesn't help us either.
And you guys all still believe it's easier to get laid by a 40-something when I'm thinking that maybe a better way of putting it is that it's easier to lay a 40-something without having to make some kind of relationship long term commitment to keep getting it.
I always thought it was harder since the 40-somethings always want a commitment and won't sleep unless you offer commitment / money / status. It appears to be the 20 somethings that don't know any better.
My Name is Nobody: your question is crude/ rude and tasteless, which maybe makes it weird and inappropriate to the discussion. Having said that I will indulge you anyway. When you say 2 - 3 hours are you asking if he could keep it up that long without going soft?
Let's see, the last time I had sex was friday night. The last time it lasted for hours was a week ago, the last time it lasted all day and night was about a m onth ago. I'm neither desperate to get laid or for dates for that matter. I prefer a more exclusive sex partner because the sex gets better and isn't fraught with all the awkward crapt in the beginning when you actually get to do it over and over and over and get a feel for what really turns each other on. I especially enjoy the consistency of the same partner for those quickies that should occur when you least expect them!
As you complain of the attention youre getting while at work in clubs. Are you wearing these jeans (and other clothes) that show off your "great ass", to these clubs?NotaCougar said:>>snip<<
There isn't a flabby spot on my body thank god, I do like to wear jeans that show my great ass thank you.
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NotaCougar said:Let's see, the last time I had sex was friday night. The last time it lasted for hours was a week ago, the last time it lasted all day and night was about a m onth ago. I'm neither desperate to get laid or for dates for that matter. I prefer a more exclusive sex partner because the sex gets better and isn't fraught with all the awkward crapt in the beginning when you actually get to do it over and over and over and get a feel for what really turns each other on. I especially enjoy the consistency of the same partner for those quickies that should occur when you least expect them!
NotaCougar said:I'm playing the field, having fun, but always thinking of him.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
NotaCougar said:Wow, 50? That's bold. Have you seen pictures? Good luck and let us know how it rolls out! Age is just a number Luke... I'm just sweating it more than I should be.
Funny huh? I wouldn't give it much thought. It's like like trying to know what parrots with hats simulate to play basketball think about when they do so. You can't. And, well, I mean this with due respect to the Parrot, it's unfair to compare the two.My Name is Nobody said:I just want to know why she's banging guys but always thinking about the 20 year old she hasn't banged yet.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.