teacha
Senior Don Juan
don't be so quick to judge, things are not always what they seem.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Update. He isnt here this AM, but I'm gonna do it. Here is something to think about. You guys all talk about maybe he cheated? Maybe it was her and he's so AFC that he's trying to get his oneitis back. hmmmm?jafyk said:Lol, nice scenario guy needs a place to sleep and cheats on his roof over his head? what is this? Ashton Kutcher in the movie "Spread"? 5String pls get that guy in here already. I dare you, lol.
Chump boy has not been back since. I'm ready to make my move if he does. I see the HB every day out of my office window though. Gotta guy here at work that I suggested he go chat her up (recon her). He's a good guy and single. He won't have a problem with a cold approach. If I was single, I would. She's fine fine fine.........jafyk said:Ok, 5string, don't think I've forgotten. What's the update with our suspect?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hahahah wow man...its like the blind trying to lead the blind :nono:Zarky said:More advanced players will realize that sometimes a man has to give flowers to a chick and get yelled at.