"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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the loser mentality by joe rogan!!

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Envy is a natural emotion. It drives you to become greater. It is nothing wrong with being envious. But when envy is suppressed, it becomes jealousy. Jealousy is a toxic emotion. It is making the statement that you don't believe you can achieve the same result of the person you are envious of, and also you feel offended that that person even exists. Jealousy seeks to tear others down while envy serves to elevate you to greater heights.

Many guys don't know how to maturely navigate their emotions so they suppress their envy and become more enraged, which is not healthy. You have to acknowledge your envy and respect the player. And then seek to strive to his level.
Don’t forget your breaking one of God’s Ten Commandments if you envy. ‘ Thou shall not covet your neighbor’s possessions’. At the end of the day, it’s okay to want things but not need it.

But yes, I agree being envious can be a good inspiration to do better. Cheers.
 

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But yes, I agree being envious can be a good inspiration to do better. Cheers.
I think no good can come from envy. It's worse than all the others, schadenfreude as well. Pride, I guess, should be a good inspiration to do better. Or carried on a wave of love of self and those you want to love.
 
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